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Neighbours cats

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Sleepycat91 · 07/02/2020 12:45

Next door moved in a year after us, no real problems, occasionally smokes weed in his back garden and stinks my house out but chat if we see each other. They started letting their kittens out a few weeks ago, no problem with cats, i have two indoor girls and i adore them BUT his cats have been climbing the fence into my garden constantly which is stressing my two out. Neighbour chopped the fence lower last year so they climb over. But our back gate is lower than his so now theyre venturing off a bit more, theyre using my gate to climb up which is ruining it and bouncing on and off my OHs car, which he is VERY precious about and his bonnet is getting is getting scratched to high hell already. I was going to put trellis along the top of my gate to stop them and i would like to put some on our side of the fence too. My rabbit has free run of the garden in the summer and i dont want him getting hurt plus ill look after my mums dog on and off and she will kill them if she gets hold of them, i have to put mine out the way or let her play in the garden when shes here. AIBU to do this, should i ask or just do it. I know its not the neighbours fault and cats are cats but i dont want them getting hurt and all our stuff wrecked by them either

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welshladywhois40 · 07/02/2020 16:35

Start having the dog round now and kittens will be too scared to come into the garden. When I was at home with a dog we never had neighbours cats coming into the garden - they learn to stay well away

CaptainButtock · 07/02/2020 16:55

My neighbour now has THREE of the bloody things.
I am picking shit up off the lawn daily, and come summer when I have veg growing I think I'm going to have to invest in a shotgun water-pistol.
I second what other people are saying about damage though. How is that happening?!

Sleepycat91 · 07/02/2020 17:24

The dogs not vicious because it doesnt like cats! Hence why shed be in the garden or id put my girls upstairs plus doggo is crate trained so can go in there too. My garden is not flat in any way shape or form and hes a giant rabbit so a run isnt an option. As much as im sure the rabbit would give the cat a hiding, i dont want the vet bill from him getting hurt. The cat using its claws to climb up the gate is shredding it as is the car being scratched from their claws landing and jumping off it. Im aware of the law, if the dogs kills or injures the cat, im not liable legally, but im not worried about that but as much as i dont want them in my garden, i dont want them hurt either. My cats are indoor, both too dense to go out and too close to a main road. The other cats in the street are VERY territorial but dont bother with our garden. Yes btw i do have anxiety and im well aware im probably being to OTT because its setting it off but my cats are stressed out by it, ones over grooming and is constantly watching the back door and its not nice to see her like that. I was planning on using cheapy trellis that would be to unstable rather than solid stuff and at the same time i didnt want to come across as bit of a dick to our neighbour and would rather say why were doing it.

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WellItsNotAFerrari · 07/02/2020 17:43

I would love to see pics of the cat scratches on the car because I just can't picture it.

@contentedsoul I really hope that you're joking and you've never actually shot projectiles at any cats.

elenacampana · 07/02/2020 18:04

I’m sorry OP hut I just don’t believe that kittens are scratching cars. I have a Norwegian Forest, he’s very large and far more powerful than kittens - he’s a prolific scratcher but isn’t able to damage a car. I think you’re getting carried away with your imagination.

I have anxiety also so I do empathise as it can be hard to separate anxiety from reality.

Grumpelstilskin · 07/02/2020 18:04

I would warn the neighbour about the dog staying from time to time. Our Greyhounds are not cat-friendly and we did tell new neighbors next door who build some sort of ramp down into the back gardens from the first floor, even though theirs was not a garden flat. In fact, we did warn them several times because their male cat was very aggressive and actually came into our garden hissing at the dogs. We like cats but we are not going to keep our dogs out of our own property. It's a large space for them to run around in. Unfortunately, as feared, their male cat did try and pick on our dogs and they chased it off. They are a lot faster than other dogs and caught it. It was very lucky to survive but required extensive treatment. The neighbours did try and threaten us with calling the police and demanded we pay the vet bill but we refused point blank. I felt sorry for the poor cat but the neighbours should not have chosen a space that was not suitable or kept them indoors from the onset. They complained bitterly to other neighbours but people told them that it was their own fault.

BlankTimes · 07/02/2020 22:33

If your neighbour put this or similar on his boundaries, his kits couldn't get into yours.
protectapet.com/cat-fence/

Or rollers on top of a fence here's a DIY solution.

FizzyIce · 07/02/2020 22:52

@contentedsoul if you did that to my cat ,you’d be the one with the head injury

1ndig0 · 08/02/2020 11:25

Op, are you sure your cats aren’t over grooming because they want to go out?

Out cats are about as dense as they come, but for the particularly dense two, we have a “Petsafe” wire system that’s goes around the garden. They can go out but won’t go beyond the garden boundary.

Then put an unstable trellis around you garden to keep other cats out.

And tell your friend you can no longer have the vicious dog to stay. Regardless of next door’s kittens and what they may or may not be up to, this must be super-traumatic for your own cats. Poor things, being cooped upstairs.

The rabbit will be fine with your cats, especially if they’re quite dopey ones.

Your cats will be healthier and live longer if you allow them out. It’s very easy to make a safe garden for them. It’s takes about 3 days for them to learn where the boundary is and if you’re worried about them legging it, you introduce them in a lead a few times. It’s well worth it. You can still keep them in when it’s dark.

Sleepycat91 · 08/02/2020 13:45

This wasnt intended as a thread for advise on letting my own cats out. They are fine as they are and dont want to go outside, the one thats over grooming is 3, so i doubt shes suddenly changed her mind. She fell out of our bedroom window 2 years ago walking on the outer window ledge and i found her terrified under the shed. I can open the door wide open infront of her and she has no intentions of going outside ever again. And i will say again the dog is not vicious in any way shape or form. She is a hound type breed and has a high prey drive, as do many dogs, that doesn't make her vicious.

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contentedsoul · 09/02/2020 13:20

@ FizzyIce & NoFarrari

It was said in jest...
Having just spent 3yrs and £10k ripping out front, side and back garden
Removing 200tons of earth, building retaining walls, patios and covered areas...the turf goes down in 2 months (top soil has been left to settle for 1 year)
I haven't wasted 3yrs of my life every weekend, evenings and £10K to provide a toilet for neighbours cats...so heres the deal..

The security cameras will pick up which cat left which pile of shit..said pile of shit will be scooped up and either thrown onto the roof of their conservatory where its will either go splat, roll off and slowly slide !! the other will be flung onto other neighbours patio, dining area...Frankly I don't give a toss what it hits or stains. their cat..so their shit...END of.

DevilsAdv0caat · 09/02/2020 13:28

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secretfreckle · 09/02/2020 13:51

For those not believing cat scratches on cars, I have seen with my own eyes the damage our own cats did to my husband's pride and joy by jumping on and off it.
It's a Porsche.
Confused

Sleepycat91 · 09/02/2020 13:53

Thank you @secretfreckle!

I get anxious about stuff im not deluded!!

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ilovesooty · 09/02/2020 14:01

Well @contentedsoul perhaps you should have refrained from making sick jokes in the first place.

ferrier · 09/02/2020 14:49

Well aren't you a joy, discontentedsoul Hmm

DevilsAdv0caat · 09/02/2020 15:26

@contentedsoul personal attacks are unbecoming. It wasn’t in jest as you go on to say your don’t care what hits the animals. You sound quite disturbed. Are you ok?

WellItsNotAFerrari · 09/02/2020 19:26

@contentedsoul If you've got 10k for garden renovations and CCTV cameras, you've got the funds to put up some trellis or use repellents. Cats legally have the right to roam and they must also by law be allowed to engage in their natural behaviour patterns (Animal Welfare Act 2006). What do you expect the owners to do?

contentedsoul · 09/02/2020 20:14

Regardless
Why should I or anyone else for that matter have to put up with cats shitting on my property. It belongs to me, not the bloody neighbours or the bloody cats.
The £10k was spent in dribs and drabs over a 3yr period, the CCTV was £400 self install jobbie, So don't make out I'm rolling in money.

One of the neighbours have dogs too, I've seen them on the pavements just standing whilst dog takes a shit. then simply walking off.

Quality huh

I'm walled in on all four sides (all mine too) 2 walls are over 6ft.....cats do jump you know? and strangely they can climb too...who would've thought that!!

FizzyIce · 09/02/2020 21:13

So what do you do about foxes then ? They also shit in people’s gardens ? Fox cull,maybe ? Seems you’d probably be an advocate

user1471449295 · 09/02/2020 21:20

You can put trellis up. You can even buy these things to put on top of garden fences to stop cars getting over. Great for letting a cat out safely. YABU about your precious reaction to fencing and car though

user1471449295 · 09/02/2020 21:20

Cars? I meant cats Blush

77seven · 10/02/2020 12:23

Cats will roam, just like the birds, squirrels or foxes, unless you use unstable trellis or one of those overhanging mesh fences on top of a wall. Foxes poo in gardens as well. This is life.

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