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AIBU to call police on neighbour from hell.

17 replies

Mariemorrigan · 06/02/2020 20:38

Last night, while cuddled up to my 14 month old, I could hear banging on the walls, which sounded like they were coming from next door. My partner was downstairs watching TV, it wasn't exactly what I'd call loud. In case it was disturbing our neighbours, I messaged my partner to turn down the volume, which he did.

At about 6pm today, we were all in the living room and heard what I'd refer to as frantic aggressive banging at the front door. My partner went to answer it, it was our neighbour shouting really loudly at him to keep down the noise, he kept shouting, telling my partner that he would break his nose and smash our windows in if we didn't control the noise. He then went for my partner, managing to grab his glasses and dump them in a bush. My partner managed to push him away before he went too far, he was so drunk he landed on his backside. It's not like we ever have lots of people over or loud music. He had also never once left us a note or called to ask us to keep supposed noise down. I've never experienced anything like this!

Our baby is teething, but mostly is settled at night, I always get him back to sleep very quickly as we cosleep and I breastfeed. I'm always conscious of keeping the volume down at night, so as to not wake my partner who works full-time or neighbours.

I'm pretty much in shock. Logged a complaint with police, who wanted to come out tomorrow to talk to us and our neighbours, AIBU to ask them to please not call to us, as I think that this would further aggravate the neighbour !?

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Hoik · 06/02/2020 20:40

Unless the neighbour is spectacularly thick he is going to know exactly who has made the complaint as soon as the police mention why they are there to talk to him.

Plumpplums · 06/02/2020 20:43

I would let the police do their job. They know how to handle things

MissConductUS · 06/02/2020 20:43

Your partner was physically assaulted by a drunk. Of course you should report it to the police.

Mariemorrigan · 06/02/2020 20:44

Exactly, I think having police call out may just aggravate him further and escalate matters. I've asked for them to phone us rather than making a house call.

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Mariemorrigan · 06/02/2020 20:46

Sorry, my title wasn't so clear, I reported it not long after it happened.

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Northernsoullover · 06/02/2020 20:48

I understand completely why you don't want to but unfortunately I think its gone beyond hoping lest said soonest mended.

StoneofDestiny · 06/02/2020 20:51

I understand completely why you don't want to but unfortunately I think its gone beyond hoping lest said soonest mended

Agreed.
A drunken assault in your own home shouldn't be ignored.

HappyHammy · 06/02/2020 20:54

Let the police talk to you, can you put in a ring doorbell, is there any CCTV on your house, dont ever answer the door to him and record any trouble he causes.

Mariemorrigan · 06/02/2020 21:23

Thanks for the kind words, really appreciate it. We're going to install a camera. X

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HappyHammy · 06/02/2020 21:41

Good luck, silly man, we have a Scricam system set up so we can watch the camera on our phones, iPad and computer. Make sure you get one with sound. Hopefully the police will scare him into behaving himself in future.

Mlou32 · 06/02/2020 22:10

Log each and every incident. It will create a log of evidence should the neighbours behaviour escalate and you need to take further action. I also think he needs to know that you've gotten the police involved, don't let him think you'll take that he is doing lying down.

Honeybee85 · 06/02/2020 22:14

Report it.
Bullies tend to get worse in their behaviour if they think they can get away with it!

RatherBeFlying · 06/02/2020 22:47

Don't be scared of calling the Police in. Your DH was assaulted. Seeing the Police there may wind him up, but if neighbour behaves in any way badly towards you for calling the Police on him, the resulting fallout from Police will be much worse. And assume they will tell him this. They are used to dealing with bullies so let them.

Florinia · 06/02/2020 22:50

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RhitaGawr · 06/02/2020 22:52

What? ^

Raspberrytruffle · 06/02/2020 23:07

I'd report it but I'd suggest you not getting your Hope's up, we've had quite extreme behaviour off our newish neighbor's even tried to frighten us by recording me and my dd with a cam corder. The most they will do is have a word with them, its quiet for a week or so until they get plastered on vodka and start fighting then we have that going on until 3am followed by the police and ambulance because the women is threatening to cut herself and to punish her boyfriend it's like this weekly and we are all absolutely shattered because we are awake from 12am until 4pm. They fucking know we have a sen child that struggles with her sleep!! Housing officer wont do anything because they have a disability a lung one so I dont understand how it gives them the right to deprive people of sleep or threaten people. Angry

Raspberrytruffle · 06/02/2020 23:09

We are going to hopefully move but is so disappointing when you live your life being a decent person a good tenant and neighbor's and neither the police or housing manager will do sod all

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