Just that really. I get very little alone time in my own house with my own kids. Ever. Over the last 2 years I’ve had approximately 6 evenings where I’ve been able to do their bedtimes and I’ve had no daytimes/weekends. My DH works from home and rarely leaves the house. He’s involved in everything. and I mean everything. I can’t do anything with the kids in the house without him being involved. Consequently, my voice is now ignored by the children. I’m much softer character and my DH is the “fun” dominant parent. It’s all his way and he dominates every conversation. Highly intelligent, he knows everything about everything and so mum by comparison is just boring. I have no idea how to have an easy stress free relationship with my own kids in my own home unless he’s not here. I feel invisible and as my kids push past me (again) to go ask daddy another question (that I would have liked to have had the chance to answer) how do I even do this? I take them out to activities but it’s exhausting to always have to take them away from the house to have any sort of conversation with them where I’m not being talked over or overlooked. I get that some people have absent DHs and I must seem ungrateful but he literally has taken over everything. Everything. I can’t even load the dishwasher anymore! He’s already done it all. I’ve been made redundant. I used to quite like bimbling round my own house in the afternoon in peace and quiet before the kids came home, loading the dishwasher to radio 1. Now TOO LATE it’s all already all been done and super quick and better and efficient. I didn’t agree to share any of this stuff and I’ve gone from having the kids to myself in a quiet house where I get to interact with them at my own pace to now having zero of that anymore.
AIBU?
Does anyone else feel like their DH dominates everything?