Hi,
Sorry for the stupid title, but I don't really want to trigger anyone by openly posting the situation.
My daughter and I do not have the best relationship, whilst I love her dearly and she loves me, we (and her dad) clash horribly, she is 20 now and lives out of the home with her ex-boyfriend (she wont move back in with us)
My DH and I try out hardest to support her, but she doesn't want our help and pushes us away. Finding out about the situation was a total fluke and I am trying not to drip-feed here, but will come off as a heartless cow either way!
She has just announced that she is now miscarrying a child and is due to see the Doctor on Monday, whilst I am deeply concerned for her and her mental health, her physical health on a long haul flight is now scaring me. My travel insurance does not include her, so I cant cancel mine without losing everything (£12K plus) her insurance is saying she needs the Dr to clear her - which I dont know if they will. She will only lie to me either way.
We are flying long haul next Thursday to a "second" once in a life time holiday - she refused to come with us the first time, but the guilt drove us insane, so took out a bank loan to take her and her siblings a second time as she regretted not going the first time.
So my very long winded AIBU is, Do we all go anyway? risk the long haul flight and threat of clotting/health issues, and very expensive, probably now uninsured treatment the other end?
Will she be miserable walking 10+ miles a day, or stay miserable in her hotel room.
DO I ask her to not go, whilst the rest of us go and have a "great" time.
Do none of us go and lose the money we have paid out - like I have said, the insurance wont pay out for the family - or my other grown up daughter as we can all still go. The holiday company wont cancel the holiday due to the time frame and to change the dates would cost 50%
This is all on top of feeling so so bad for her mental health, I cant be there to support her as she doesn't want me to be, it isn't a longed for child with her ex-boyfriend, its an accident with another person and she isn't invested in the pregnancy.(I know this, I am not heartless)
I just honestly don't know what to do that is best for her.