Should I be bothered?

[Ginbunny1212]

Broke up my ex of 6 months 5 weeks ago. It wasn’t a nasty break up. He just had a lot going on, both busy, live distance away and seeing each other was hard. It was situational as towards the end we didn’t really make time for each other. Both said we were interested in each other, but With lives etc, it was hard. He was also a closed book with his problems with his child and ex. Fights over trying to co-parent, even after 11 years. He didn’t open up, just went silent.

Since we have broken up, we texted a few times, conversational. We met once to return stuff and he was really nervous, acting like our first few dates - he admitted a few months into our relationship that he was so nervous at the start as he liked me. We actually got on better that night.

He has some ongoing challenges with his ex and teenager. Witnessed some of it and really his ex is a control freak. He posted something worrying on Facebook last weekend. I texted to check he was ok, and he finally opened up about everything. Since then he has texted everyday, like we were going out. Kisses at the end of messages etc. I am not good at reading between the lines.

So am I reading too much into this? Is it friendly? He was not good at being direct. I did hint that I had nothing on this weekend, he said he didn’t have plans. Not sure I want to go back out with him, but company would be good.

So should I be bothering? Is he texting to be friendly?

I don't know what you're being reasonable or unreasonable about so its tough to pick a box?

However, sod what he wants. What do YOU want? a friend? a no strings sex partner? a boyfriend?
I mean, you broke up with him for good reason, right? I am a big fan of moving on rather than going back but that's not to say you wouldn't work better as friends x

I am not too sure. Should I ask him to come round? Be annoyed he is flirting again or ignore. I am over him, but like him at the same time.

I think it’s tricky with things like this because you broke up for a reason. What has changed? If nothing has, why do you think it would be different if you got back together?

But really you need to establish what you want. Do you want him back? If you just want company and you don’t, why does it have to be an ex? If you’re no longer interested then it’s better to have a clean break - texting etc only blurs those lines and makes it harder.

I am over him, but like him at the same time.

You ended the relationship for good reason and you admit you are over him. Stop communicating and move on.

I know. Ex due to the drama in his life. Think we are still attracted to each other. Been on 5 dates since we split up, but no spark with the guys. Honestly in the last 2 years only felt the spark with my ex. Nice guy but it’s his situation.