To be a bit upset my childs biology dad has gf?

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My daughter is 3.3. Her bio dad has not had any contact with her since she was 4 months old. Of course i wish he was a proper dad but I would never beg, he just hasn't bothered :( shame because she's an amazing clever little girl.
Anyway, I just discovered today he's been in a relationship with a girl since November, infact posting it 9 days before his child's birthday, which he didn't post about or send anything for etc.
I just feel really shocked and a bit angry that girls WANT to be with men who abandon their own flesh and blood. I really hope she is aware of the child he has, but since he has no mention of her on his main Facebook account, it seems less plausible. I don't think I'll do this because I don't want the drama but one side of me wants to message this girl and make sure she knows. I would want to if it was me in that relationship!
How do I stop being bothered by this? I don't know who I'm bothered more by? Her dad for 'moving on' from his responsibility or the girl who wants to be with him when he's nothing 🤔

I'd be sad. I think some women believe men when they claim to have a "psycho ex" and convince themselves they will be treated better.

Well, he has probably shown her that he is great and what not, but soon the truth will come out.

Try to not feel so offended by it, I know it's hard, but it will just ruin your day, not his.

Sorry, he is a shit dad.

She may well not even know he has a child. DP had a mate who had had zero contact with his son and I was told prior to a double date with him and his girlfriend not to mention the fact he had a son. She eventually found out and dumped him.

But you messaging her won't solve anything, he may well just use it to double down on the psycho ex excuse. As he's such a shit person your lovely daughter is probably best not having him in her life, sad as that is.

Sorry he walked out of your childs life thats really shitty and that should be the only thing you focus on. I hope you have chased him for maintanence?

Domt give a 2nd thought to this girlfriend. Either she doesnt know he has a child or she knows he is not in the childs life. What he told her doesnt matter to you because he has left and you unfortunately have to keep going with raising your daughter alone without anything from him. Unless he crawls out of the woodwork to see your child ignore him and block his social media. You are only hurting yourself right now.

That is rubbish and he should be a better father but his relationship with this woman is not your business. She may well know he has a child bit, even if she doesn’t, it’s not your business to tell her.

Your daughter sounds like she’s better off without him. Just you get on with raising a lovely little girl who knows her mum loves her and forget him, he’s clearly not given his child a backwards glance!!. Sad yes and most likely he’s not told this person but leave them to their sad lives and you can enjoy yours with your little girl.

You're still too invested in him, he's not in your life, nor his child's!

How come you know all this information? Also what is the relevance of it being nine days before his DDs birthday? She's 3, she doesn't care!

Honestly for your own self esteem stop bothering with him, certainly don't blame his new partner "for being with him". It's his choice to ignore his child, not hers.

This sounds really hard to deal with but you're not going to get what you want by messaging her. She probably doesn't know, and if you tell her, he will twist things and make it sound like you're the crazy ex girlfriend, you won't allow him access, or you want him back etc.

You're doing a great job, you have been raising your wonderful daughter alone for three years. Just take the high ground, laugh at her being stuck with him, and get on with your life

Oh and sue the fucker for maintenance!

They're two totally separate things.

Him having a girlfriend is nothing to do with him being a shit dad.

Are you still hung up on him OP?