DH being unsociable?

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Tonight my mum came round for dinner, I see her often but DH doesn't. DH got home from work and has spent the whole time she was here in the games room playing on his xbox, AIBU to be annoyed at this? I find it rude that he didn't even come out for half an hour to speak to us. Whenever his mum or family come over I always sit wherever they are and chat away to them all, I wouldn't dream of shutting myself away the whole time (at all) whilst they were here.

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Did he know she was coming? If not I don't blame him. I look forward to coming home from work and get my own space, I wouldn't want to have to make polite conversation when not told in advance.

If he knew, then he should have at least come and say hello, make quick conversation and say he hopes they didn't mind if he went and did his things.

@Dontdisturbmenow yes he knew she was coming, I understand people needing space after work and that's fine I just think half an hour of being with us would of been nice! I'd never do that it his family even when I've been at work all day!

It's very rude - he should make the effort with your family as you do with his. YANBU op.

I just thought it was polite when you have guests over who you don't see often to spend time with them? They have a great relationship so it's nothing bad between them.

How long have they known each other? Do they get along usually? How many times in a month do you see her - and how many times does he? Does she always come to yours? Has he done this before or was this a one off?

Sorry - cross posted. Yes if they get along he should have at least come over to say hello.

You're not unreasonable, it wouldn't have hurt him to spend some time with your mother, presumably you at least all had dinner together.

I don't get these supposedly grown men who spend so much spare time playing computer games, it is so immature.

If this is just a one off it could be that he's had a shitty day at work and just needs the time. If it's part of the larger picture of avoiding people then you need to speak to him and find out why.

I do think he was being rude yes. I would actually hate to come home from work and find someone outside of my immediate family who I had to socialise with but I'd still have made an effort.

It doesn’t matter if he’s tired, stressed, ill, saw her last week, last month and all the other excuses people on here are going to come up with - in my book, five minutes polite small talk is mandatory for any invited guest in your house and so YANBU, he was bloody rude.

Lock the Xbox next time. Bloody games!

I've just had a chat with him about it and he apologised and said he didn't mean to be rude! I just reminded him of all the times his family are here when I'm tired/pregnant and sick/after work and I always sit with them and chat away.

Don't get me started on the Xbox! It's his second wife 😂 or actually first wife, I'm his second!!

My DH is like this even with his own family

Did he initially say hello and then go off? I think there's a difference between totally ignoring or just not engaging in your evening and leaving you to it.

My dh isn't particularly sociable at all. He'd only say hello even to his own family.

Solution was to put his pc in the livingroom, which means he can game and unwind, while still talking to whoever is over.