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Celebrating death?

33 replies

YellowDragon22 · 05/02/2020 13:19

I live in a suburb of a large city and the other night was trying to have a sensitive chat after a very traumatic event with an elderly relative on the phone. A few minutes into the conversation we were interrupted by what I thought was a gun shot, it was so loud. This was followed by a further four, then I realised it was fireworks. Extremely loud, so loud I had to stop my conversation. This went on for around 25 minutes at which point I went out to investigate.

I noticed it was a neighbours several doors away in my close and went round to complain (on a work night, late evening I thought it ridiculous).

I saw it was some sort of party and told them it was disturbing everyone locally (several other neighbours were outside, bewildered), only to be aggressively shouted at by a man-child who put his face in mine "do you know what we are celebrating?? We are celebrating the death of a child".

Well no actually, I didn't know, and to be honest I think there are far more appropriate and intelligent ways to pay tribute to someone who has sadly lost their life rather than disturb an entire neighbourhood for an extended length of time. Go to a field somewhere or an open park by all means if you have to let off these wretched things that petrify animals, but not in a built-up area. The fireworks continued for around just under an hour in all.

I'm not sorry and I still think it's stupid and selfish. Am I being unreasonable to think this is anti-social, not matter what the celebration and to expect people to be more considerate, also that it's slightly weird to celebrate a death with fireworks?

OP posts:
Schuyler · 05/02/2020 14:22

What time was it? I’m fairly sure it was worded wrong and they were celebrating the life. If it was before midnight, I’d not have dreamt of even going around there. Noise happens in residential areas.

PhilCornwall1 · 05/02/2020 14:27

They were celebrating the child's like, surely you got that? You complaining more than likely upset him and he worded it wrong. At that specific point in time, I'm sure animals would have been the last thing on their minds and rightly so.

I'd say not your finest hour and possibly not your finest post on here.

Alsohuman · 05/02/2020 14:28

A man child? Really? Or a bereaved father out of his mind with grief? Here’s a grip, OP, take it.

Butchyrestingface · 05/02/2020 14:28

YANBU.

However, at least they weren’t letting off balloons.

Urkiddingright · 05/02/2020 14:30

Celebrating life is one thing but to say you’re celebrating someone’s death is kinda weird, I’m guessing he just said the wrong thing (I hope). Anyway, legally people can set fireworks off before 11pm any day of the year. I don’t agree with it either, I don’t think fireworks should be sold for personal use.

FizzyIce · 05/02/2020 14:30

Couldn’t have been that late , you were chatting in the phone to an elderly relative ?
Yes he worded it wrong but my friend lost her son and they have fireworks every year on his anniversary. It’s not down to you how they remember or mourn the poor child.
You sound like a busy body

ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia · 05/02/2020 14:39

Yeah.. that’s a dick move.. YABVVVVVU

The4thSandersonSister · 06/02/2020 10:57

Well you've "shown your arse" as the kids say OP.

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