to ask if you are dating/married to your 'type'

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for those of you in relationships are you dating your ideal 'type on paper' looks and personality based?

YABU : you are dating your type
YANBU: you are not dating your type

Very much my type.

Yes he definitely is.

He’s a little shorter than me (i have zero preference on height though), blond wavy hair, big round blue eyes, big lips, a bit androgynous and a slim build. He’s very intelligent, kind, thoughtful and fairly confident (without being big headed).

He is also perfect in every way, I obviously don’t tell him that!!

Looks wise probably not, in films I like really big muscle guys, often bald (by choice) pretty rough round the edges, tattoos and very protective

My husband is muscly but in a slim way, I guess leans is the phrase, 6 pack etc but not huge, no tattoos and actually I really wouldn't want him to have them and while hes not really protective he knows I can fight my own battles

I am dating my type. Blue eyes, curly hair (if he’d let it grow), muscular build, manly job (used to be more of a manly job before he got promotion). Similar ideas about what we want in life, how to
Parent etc.

I don’t understand the Love Island “my type” thing.

No, dh was definitely not my type. My type was apparently tattooed asshole who had a band, or uptight city suit based on my dating history. I’m conscious of how oddly contradictory those types are. I must be very ying and yang.

I met dh when we were both expats working abroad. We started hanging out and eventually dating because we just happened to be the ones in our small group of English speaking friends who had the most in common and wanted to go out and do similar things. But he was so not my type. If I’d met him on a night out at home and he’d tried to hit on me, I would have actually laughed in his face. He was just so not the sort of guy I would ever have dated. Probably because he was nice and normal and polite and not a massive wanker.

As the years rolled on, it’s obvious he is very much my type. We are very complementary, different personalities but we each have something the other doesn’t. We have very similar values and shared goals. I don’t know if some of that is just that you grow into someone a bit over the years or if it was obvious that we were well suited to each other from the start. I couldn’t imagine how miserable I would have ended up with one of the guys I thought were ‘my type’ though.

Yes and no. No if you look at my dating patterns in my 20s (tall, dark, handsome, 'mysterious' - read: not much to say, uncomfortable with emotions of any kind). Yes, as after trying out my 'type' in my 20s I knew exactly what I did NOT want in a partner in my 30s when I met DH who turns out to be exactly what I needed (tall, blonde, very smart and high EQ).

Yes 😊😊

I remember when we met, and I just fancied the pants off him straight away, the relationship was very slow moving and I remember saying to my sister, i dont know what to do if it goes wrong because hes exactly my type!!

Fast forward 4 years we have a DD.

Personality wise at first we had slightly different senses of humours. We clicked and could talk for hours. The laughing not so much. Now I'd say we laugh at the same things. We just understand each other now.

On paper my DH is not my type. He’s older than me (10 years) shorter than me (I always preferred taller men) when I first met him, tbh I didn’t look twice at him. Then I noticed his smile and I was hooked. Thought of nothing but him for months before we met again and started dating. That smile still gets me. As much for how gorgeous he looks when he smiles as to know he’s happy...and as cringeeeee as that sounds, if he’s happy, I’m happy.
I’m so glad I didn’t ignore the love of my life just because he wasn’t my usual ‘type’. He’s the best and I love him to bits even if he is somewhat vertically challenged

I know I'm posting again off subject..
But my dp said he was leaving for work... half hour later just come home.. he had gone to the supermarket, got me heat patches for my bad back, a coat for my DD that I was rambling on about last night IN THE RIGHT SIZE, and chocolate and I'm honestly just feeling so lucky right now.

Hes got a hour drive to work this morning yet still thinks about us .

I know this is irrelevant but I'm just happy lol

Not dating right now, but the last person I dated towards the end of last year was a million miles away from my type - into sports (professionally and personally), bearded, bloody personalised numberplate... Chemistry was amazing and I loved being in his company, great conversation and more spark/gumption about him than most people I have dated. Having said that, he turned out to be a ghosting prick, but it’s made me slightly more open to different types of people.

Yup - I wanted a dark haired, dark eyes, sexy smile, very intelligent, average build, no tattoos, wicked sense of humour and a little bit arrogant - the only thing I didn’t want was an investment banker but he was one and he ticked every other box so...... he’s amazing with the children too. And I found out later he could cook!

Nope definitely not as she's a woman lol. Never considered I might fall in love with a woman let alone my actual best friend and luckily she did me. She is shorter and younger than me, doesn't like hair and make up stuff and much more laid back personality wise than me but been married 2 years and together 6 so far. She is my soul mate.

Pretty much! He’s maybe a little older and a little shorter than my type on paper. But he has dark hair, blue eyes, bit of silver fox stubble. He’s so kind and loving and generous. I luffs him.

My type: slightly overweight and hairy. And tall. And a bit rough round the edges.

DP: exactly all those things.

(I worked out my type many years before I met DP. My first though when introduced by our then manager...”oh shit, here we go”.

Complete opposite to my type. Even down to the name. I really disliked the name (he has) but ended off marrying him. His opinions, attitudes everything; I challenged and he too me lol.
Oddly enough we connect. He drives me mad but grounds me too.

I love it!!

No. My type is, I have realised, arrogant wankers. DP isn't one (usually). I think that might be why I am currently in my longest relationship ever!

Kind of.
I have two physical types - skinny and dark haired or bear shaped with light brown hair. DH is one of those.

Personality type - the most important things for me are that he is a brilliant dad, has brains and is kind. DH ticks all of those. Also love bone dry humour. DH has that. Next would be extrovert and loves adventure but DH is not either of those. Bonus is that DH can be romantic. I never expected that but I really love it.

Mixed answer:

Looks wise yes.
Physically he's broad-shouldered but both of us would like him a little taller - I'm 5'9"
Style-wise he dresses very well, but I do like the arty/rocky/goth look a bit more.
Personality wise we fit very well. Only wish would be for him to be more proactive, but then he does expend a lot of energy in his career.

Lovely bugger would tell everyone I am absolutely perfect, which he does frequently when drunk. He'll do.

He is my type, in all the ways. We've been together 25 years, married for 21, and he is still my ideal.

No, not my type. I thought I wanted someone similar to myself. I was in a LTR with someone who was like me, and it wasn't a good fit. It turns out I wouldn't have predicted the sort of person who would actually be GOOD for me.

If I had filled on one of those online dating forms it would have ruled out my now-DH on a number of counts. But he is right for me. Been married for almost 30 years now and very happy.

He doesn't meet my every need, but that is okay - I can do hobbies etc with friends instead.

Kind of.

When I was a teenager, I mostly fancied long-haired guys who played an instrument in a rock/metal band, fun-loving but soulful and romantic types. Dark hair and eyes.

Then my last boyfriend of ten years was the polar opposite - blonde hair, blue eyes, preppy and a bit of a show-off, not particularly romantic or sweet.

Funnily enough in my OH now I've sort of reverted to type - he has dark hair and eyes, and when he was younger he was in a band and had long hair. He's very romantic and caring.

But I didn't know all of those things about him when I first got to know him, so it's been sort of funny to find out he's turned out to be exactly the type of guy I always used to go for.

Kind of both!

I'm in a new relationship of 4 months and he is definitely not what I usually go for at all in the physical sense. If you had put him in front of me without my having a conversation with him, I probably wouldn't have been that bothered or over looked him.

I'm 5ft 4 and he is about the same height as me, is smidge taller, I usually go for taller guys and beardy, tattoo types. He's got a cute geek look about him, but not overly good looking. He's a tad overweight but looks after himself by going to the gym regularly.

He is super intelligent and academic, the cleverest person I've ever been with, but he is also funny, kind, generous and personable. We are both passionate about music and that's what we bonded over. We also have the same life values and outlook, politically. We laugh a lot and he makes me smile every day. We both feel lucky to have met each other and envisage a future together.

Physically, yes. Tall, long hair, beard, tattoos, bit rough looking

In terms of interests, we have enough things in common to get along - both lovers of rock/metal music, same taste in films etc. but also enough different interests to keep things interesting.

In terms of personality, he's not my 'typical' type but after 6 years together I can see he is exactly what I needed. I always thought I'd end up with an artsy, super emotional type but DH is the exact opposite - possibly the most level-headed person I've ever met! Frustrating at times but actually helps me to stay grounded. Also very shy/introverted (I always say he's a man of very few words) and very much a home bird, would always rather be settled down & in a routine. Not that I'm some big adventurer, but I'm definitely a lot more sociable and independent than he is and I'm often out with friends/family when he's at home with the dog.

BUT he's sweet, he makes me belly laugh and from the second I met him I felt like I could be myself. No need to put on any pretenses, he loves me exactly as I am. There's still noone else I'd rather come home to.

Nope. I'm short and have always found it annoying being short so wanted someone tall, and with dark hair. Also someone passionate and into the arts like me. DH is 5'7" so definitely not tall, and what hair he has left, which isn't much, bless him, is blonde. He's a science and computing geek who works in IT support. We have virtually no hobbies in common, and I have no idea how we ended up together when we are so different, but it works well, he is the loveliest, kindest person I know, adores me and our children and is somehow just exactly what I need, despite not being what I thought I wanted at all.