WIBU to use the disabled changing room?

[JADS]

Before I start this is definitely a Would I be unreasonable as I think I probably would but I wanted to check as it would make my life easier.

DS2 (5) does after school swimming lessons which are a bit of a fraught mess. The showers are pool side and usually have a queue. The changing rooms are tiny and you can barely fit the 2 of us in. He is good at getting dressed but needs help as he tends to dawdle when he's tired. He is NT.

Until recently, I have had the luxury of paying someone to have DS1 (9) while I take DS2 swimming. DS1 has ASD, learning difficulties and continence issues. Unfortunately they can't do it anymore and he has to come with us. He is generally pretty good, but hates any waiting around, tends to wander off and decided today when DS2 was trying to get changed that he desparately needed the toilet (Which is the other side of the changing rooms).

After a bit of touch and go getting him to the toilet and having to leave DS2 on his own, I realised there is a disabled cubicle with a shower and toilet in it. It's huge so we wouldn't all be falling over ourselves and DS1 couldn't wander off.

Would we be unreasonable to use the disabled cubicle even though DS1 isn't swimming? It feels like a dick move if I'm honest, but DS1 can be unpredictable.

YANBU just use the cubicle
YABU leave it for a swimmer with a disability

You have a disabled child. Use the changing room.

Seems perfectly reasonable to me.

Yours is the situation that changing room is designed for. Use without any guilt!

Sounds like you’re using it for its intended purpose!

Even though it is not the child with disabilities who is changing, you do still have to keep both your children safe. I think using the disabled changing room is your only option in this scenario. And all other users of the pool would think so too.

YANBU. You have a disabled child with you. Presumably you don't routinely see anyone else using the cubicle at the same time you'll be using it?

Of course use it. It’s what it’s there for.

Use it.

Of course use it

Definitely use it! You have a disabled child.

I have a child with ASD and severe learning difficulties - this is a prime example of the hidden problems of life with a child who has special needs.
Use the disabled changing area - you have to keep your older child safe and your younger child shouldn't have to miss out because of the needs of their sibling.

As someone who needs the disabled facilities (both for myself and my children) USE IT.
Though only when you have your DC1 with you.