The more I read about PDA (pathological demand avoidance) the more I wonder if my DD has it. From a young age..2 maybe 3 she has had high anxiety about leaving me, I always had to sit in her classes, her nursery, she could never be picked up by a childminder, it always had to be a family member. Took 4 years to settle at primary school and stop crying when I dropped her in. Terrified the night before a school trip or holiday, hysterical crying at home. Sensory issues around food. From age 12 to now it is becoming alot worse and hard to manage. Her room is over the top messy she is not embarrassed atall about friends seeing it, I mean there could be pants with San pro on the floor she does not care. It's like one of those hoarders houses. She constantly tells us to shut up/shouts "idiots" at us, she is obsessed by the internet and certain rappers. I mean really obsessed.. she tries to refuse school but is frightened of breaking school rules in some ways so just does bare minimum re attendance and homework .Simple things like asking her to do homework etc she reacts like a screaming banshee, she is extremely aggressive when stopped from doing inappropriate stuff, like hanging around outside late at night. Since age 12 she has tried smoking vaping and has shoplifted. When caught she goes beserk and doesn't seem to understand why we would be annoyed..accused us of making a fuss. At school she is behaved and the school describe her as passive. She seems to feel inferior to "normal" people, despite having a perfectly normal upbringing, and insists on seeking out people that have social and behavioural problems. My husband and I try so so hard with her and it is exhausting. There is history of autism in my family...can anyone with any experience help me as I am at my wit's end.