To think i'm allowed to hate hugs?

[WonkyGenes]

I've hated hugs, kisses, holding hands, pats on the back, being tapped and just generally being touched since I was a small child. Like having a massage would be hell on earth for me. (I don't have this issue with my husband haha)

My parents just accepted this and told people not to ask me for hugs etc when I was a kid. I have no issues as an adult explaining this to people so it isn't awkward,

I went to a family meal recently and my uncle (who my parents told as a child i dont like hugs and i have reiterated this as an adult) ran up to me and hugged me from behind and picked me up. It made me jump and i told him to get off me quite bluntly. My husband then said "Why do that you know she hates it?"

My uncle was annoyed and started a telling everyone about how much of a drama queen I was and how i'm a snowflake. I just avoided him after that.

He has now messaged me asking us not to come to any more events if i'm going to act like that and cause drama.

WIBU to just tell him to fuck off or block his number and ignore him from now on?

"Actually, if you can't keep your hands to yourself like a reasonable human being it would probably be better if you weren't to attend any more events"

Ugh, revolting man.

What you've got yourself there OP, is an Uncle Nobhead

every family has one grin including mine

Absolutely - I had one. I say "had", he's not dead but absolutely culled. It's bliss.

I spend insane amounts of time reminding my hug-loving 7 year old ‘hands to yourself’ around other people. Same phrase might work on your twattish uncle?

It’s not ok, it’s demeaning and he’s trying to put you in your place. Don’t let him. Regardless of whether you like hugs or not, what he did was incredibly rude and I would have no hesitation in calling him out on it. He’s completely in the wrong.

Good for you DH for standing up for you.
Your uncle is a massive creep and you've called him out on it and now he's attacking you. Yuck.

Just ignore him and go to any family events you want. If he tries that again, do the 'sing' thing from Miss Congeniality.

You are definitely not being unreasonable. The only person I like to be hugged by is my husband and 1 friend, that's all. I don't know why I'm like it, I just am.
If anybody else tried to hug me, I'd do anything to avoid it.
Your uncle was extremely rude. How dare he?

Ugh. Reminds me of a date I went on when the guy said 'just so you know, I'm a very tactiiiiilllle person' as if that statement gave him the right to trample all over my personal space. A heads up so now it's ok iyswim. Disgusting.

Dear uncle, thank you for your suggestion. However, may I suggest that it is you that should avoid these events if you ae unable to respect others personal space?

I like hugs (with people I love and care about not randoms) and I would hate this too!
What a massive creep 😝
Who does he think he is telling you to stay away from family events?
What do the rest of your family think about his message?

YANBU, I was suffering with a really bad drinking problem some years ago following a bereavement and decided AA was the way forward. Ugh everyone there wants to hug you even when you say you don’t like it. I stopped going after a few months and addressed my issues elsewhere.

Completely ignore him. He's trying to provoke a reaction. One of my sisters is exactly the same (as in she doesn't like physical stuff unless her DH or DC)

YANBU. Nothing creepier than someone being grabby with you in the veil being welcoming then making you out to be standoffish because you don't like it. I absolutely detest space invaders like that. I'm probably a bit on the obsessive side about having my personal space attacked but I hate kisses, hugs, holding hands etc... Its one of the reasons I choose to remain single.
I hate visiting my family in France as I cannot cope with the overly touchy, kissy greetings with not just them but every bloody neighbour that sticks their head in the door.

Yanbu, but if he doesnt watch it he's going to make himself look like the creepy uncle by making a scene about it.