Afternoon lovely ladies......I'm after some advice please.......
I'll try and keep it short!
We joined a friendship group about 3 years ago (my partners cousin) we meet every weekend and walk our dogs, in the summer we camp loads and we meet up for bbqs. If theres a gathering its generally done at ours because we have the biggest house.
After about 6 months one of their friends started camping with us and he had recently separated from their other friend, my partner and I became good friends with him........a bit later we met his ex partner, she seemed very nice but there was something about her so I've always been a bit wary of her.
They were invited to everything we do, it got to a point last year when they tried again but it didnt work that it was making us all feel so uncomfortable.......
So anyway her ex partner is turning 50 next week so I invited everyone here except her, I told her we were celebrating his birthday and we'd catch up with her another time......I explained that we see her every week but we dont see her ex at all and haven't seen him for over a month......well she went mad, sending group chats about how hurt she is and didnt have a clue there was such an issue with them being in the same room.......accusing us of having met with him for 3 months before christmas behind her back. We were actually fitting a new kitchen so we did nothing but that.......she then sent her ex a message having a go. Shes now decided shes coming on saturday to our house to celebrate!! Shes not been invited by myself or my partner.....
I dont see her as my friend, shes not someone I would have a coffee with on my own.....I see her as the groups friend.
I have 3 best friends away from this group and we've been friends for over 15 years, I have other friends away from the group too........I love everyone else in the group, I meet with the others regularly and one who doesnt come on walls facetimes me about 3 times a week.
I think her behaviour has been so childish, I feel like she either wants us to choose or she cant let us do things without her.......
I want to cancel but hate letting people down, what do I do?
Shall I suggest we all go out instead, that was we can just have one and come home?
I feel like I dont want to waste my evening on egg shells......