Long story short, it's been decided that DP and DSS would have one evening/afternoon out each week, just the two of them. He lives full time with us, goes to see his mum on the odd weekend. Long story, but basically she walked out on him when he was a baby, hardly had any contact for almost 8 years, then came back in his life sporadically. Fought for custody randomly once, but obviously wasn't allowed it.
It's partly all of our faults, but DP and DSS have stopped communicating well (we're all busy, DP is always knackered from work, DSS just wants to play games), and this all came to a head over the weekend during an argument.
DSS has said he feels like he doesn't spend time with DP. This is true - but that's partly because he chooses to play games with his mates every evening after college, which means he's sat in his room. Both DP and I are always happy for him to come and watch tele with us, or come down for a chat.
So we all agreed an outing each week would be a good idea to help things.
BUT.
They know they want to do "things" together, but don't know what.
They're acting like I'm an idiot for suggesting they need to do "things", but I can't come up with actual ideas.
Last night we went bowling, played on the arcades, then went out for some food. I ended up going with them, but won't be going normally, as the whole point is for the two of them to get to know each other again, if that makes sense!
So far I've got..
- Out for a meal
- Cinema
- Bowling
- Arcades
Neither of them are particularly outdoorsy. If it was me and my dad we'd have just gone for walks or for a bike ride! It would have been very easy!
Can anyone help by giving me some cool ideas of what they could do together or where they could go? It will normally be on a Monday night after college, meaning 5pm onwards - he goes to bed at 10.30.
TIA, I'm honestly clueless, and need to come out with some decent ideas, seeing as the whole spending time together thing was my idea in the first place!