Should I stop breastfeeding?

[Babybee2020]

I am writing this probably to help me deal with this for myself.
I've had baby 3 by c section due to the ravaged pelvic floor from 1 & 2.
She was sleepy, jaundiced lost >10% needed top ups. She's got reflux. Feeds hourly for a lot of the night. Needs held to
Sleep. Feeds a lot of the day for hours and hours.
I've seen a lactation consultant she's got posterior tongue tie but it's mild and Issue is my nipple is too big for her mouth.
I understand how to breast feed and the physiology of demanding feeding and night feeding.
I managed 6-7 months with the others.
I'm miserable. I'm horrible to my husband. I'm short tempered with my kids. I'm unreasonable. I cry a lot. I'm not happy.
Why has it come to this? I'm exhausted. I think I need to stop but I feel so selfish and also maybe won't even help!!
Any similar experiences?

Do what is best for you. The advantage of formula is that other people can help with the feeding and I imagine with 3 children that would be very useful. I think nipple guards can help with tongue tie if you decide to continue. Maybe ring the national breastfeeding advice line?

6-7 months isn't that long. Well, it is, in terms of the UK'S bf rates but not otherwise.
Do you think breastfeeding is for you (aside from the problems this time)?
Just wondering as some women don't like it but try due to pressure etc.

I gave up for exactly the same reasons as you. I was exhausted with it and mental health was terrible, baby wasn’t happy as every feed was a battle. I had to combine feed as he wasn’t getting enough. I had managed Bf with other children so felt such a failure. I think sometimes you just have to realise you have to enjoy the time with your baby. So I went on to bottles, it’s obviously not as good as breastfeeding but he got a few weeks of gold star mum milk and is a happy well fed and thriving baby now so no regrets. It was best decision for both of us

Have you seen a TT specialist? We were told by a midwife and a HV that our baby’s tongue tie was mild, I mentioned to a friend that I was struggling with BF and she directed me to a TT specialist who diagnosed a severe TT, had it snipped by day 10 (we went private as didn’t want to wait for NHS), it cost £400 but I felt it was worth it as feeding improved immediately (like the second she had had it snipped) - immediately much less painful, easier for baby, she was getting the milk she needed and was happy - happiness all round! We live in London so not sure if that’s a standard private price or less expensive elsewhere. There can be other benefits to getting TT fixed around speech etc as they get older.

I wonder if there could be a lack of training/awareness/accurate info around TT as friend who recommended the specialist was also told her babies only had mild TT when they were severe (she researched, saw TT specialist for diagnosis and pushed for NHS TT snip at around 5/6 weeks)

BTW I don’t think you have to BF at all, I just know how much a difference TT snip made and I’m really glad I did it.

I wish women weren’t put under so much pressure to BF, I know I was in the early days (by midwives/HV etc) when it was agonising/wasn’t working and it made me really miserable

Your little one sounds very much like how my first born was. She fed constantly and then would projectile vomit it all up. I kept going with the breast feeding because I wanted to do my best by her, but looking back I realise that an exhausted and anxious mother was probably detrimental to her as much as it was me. I eventually gave up when my nipples got so cracked that my DD started vomiting up blood, but if I'd had other children to consider I definitely would have swapped over to formula sooner.