To think this person might not be a friend after all

[AutumnFever00]

I can't work out if someone at work is a friend or a foe, or whether this person actually likes me in an attraction way. It's really doing my head in. Sometimes he makes flirty comments, but he can be rude and blunt a lot of the time, and often says things that are downright dismissive.

In comparison, he's not blunt or dismissive with other people, and seems to be really friendly and chatty with everyone but me! It's hurting my feelings, as I did always think of him as a friend. I just can't work him out. On reflection I'm not sure WTF is going on. Why the flirty comments? Why would someone be civil and nice one moment and frustrated and provoking the next?

I think he doesn't like you very much. If he fancied you he wouldn't be horrible. Maybe the flirty comments are what he says to everyone.

Perhaps he does like you but is insecure and is trying to 'read' you to see if you like him and when he feels you are not responding in the ' right ' way he gets upset and becomes cool or dismissive?
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I think he probably fancies you but is totally insecure so is defensively being rude. I would avoid.