In having an affair?

[Pluto1976]

Dh shows no interest in me at all. He knows nothing about my life/friends/career because he never takes the trouble to ask. When I do tell him of my own accord, I know he isn’t listening/isn’t interested.

We don’t have sex unless I instigate it. Tbh we don’t even kiss/cuddle/hold hands. Ever.

If I’m going out with friends the most he manages in the way of a compliment is “you look nice”. Nice? Is that it? I often seriously wonder if he’s gay.

Aibu to want something more than this? Is this a normal marriage?

I don’t want to break up my family and ruin my children’s lives. A friend has shown an interest in me. Aibu to want todo something with them?

While you're still in a relationship? Yes, you'd be massively unreasonable.

If you think ending your marriage would hurt your DC, just how damaging would an affair be?!

Well your marriage sounds shit. So end it. Your children know how horrible your relationship is. They always know. Do you want them growing up thinking it’s healthy or normal?

Don’t shag your mate. Get a divorce.

You will do more damage to your children by staying in an unhealthy, loveless marriage. Your children know exactly how miserable you are. Please don't let them grow up thinking this is normal and all there is to a relationship.

As for cheating, give your head a wobble. It will end badly and cause far more problems than you can imagine. Don't be desperate enough to drop a grenade into your own life. Get your affairs in order and end your marriage. A brighter future awaits.

Please take a look in the relationships section where there are multiple threads created by women in pieces after they discover their partner has cheated.

There is also a thread by a man whose wife cheated if you wanted a male perspective on this

P. S why not try and work on your marriage? Or just end the relationship.

Good luck...you're going to get flamed on here. These boards are full of people who think cheating is the worst thing anyone could ever do.

Is he having an affair? Who knows but probably not.
Should you have an affair? No
Should you separate? Yes I would think so unfortunately.

YABU.

Either work on your relationship, suck it up, or end it.