To be annoyed by Husbands competitiveness over sleep?

[AmItheonlyonewingingit]

Husband works and I'm a sahm, he wakes at 5.30 each day to leave for work at 6.15. Often when he leaves I am still asleep or just waking. Our daughter is 17mths and a very good sleeper usually waking between 7.30 and 8.00. I get up at 6.45-7am and get ready for her waking up. As a side note I also take medication for an aneurism that makes me drowsy in the morning (and feel like poop).

Lately husband been commenting on how I get to lie in more than him and today we argued because he wants to wake at 6am on weekends and volunteered to take baby monitor and let me sleep today, but then when little one woke at 7, he ignored her, so I got her up and was a bit miffed... Only because he'd said he would get her. And he was really angry saying I don't need a lie in as I get one everyday blah blah blah. So what did it matter if he left her for me, he was busy.
I usually get up with little one at weekends while he sleeps, prior to his decision to get up early on weekends too.

Am I being unreasonable to be annoyed with his attitude?

YANBU. He’s being very childish. How unattractive.

6.45 am is not a lie in, in my book! If he decides to get up early that's his choice, but it's unfair of him to say you should stay in bed and then ignore your child so you have to get up, and if you're on medication that makes you feel rubbish then he needs to take notice of that! YANBU

YANBU he's being childish. I'd kind of agree that if he's tired and needs a catch up lie in at the weekend he should get one but he volunteered to get DD so he should have just done it.

Split the weekends - he gets up earlier than you all week, at the very least you should take one day (2 would be nice as he’s up all week)

I get up at 5am for work. It's an absolute killer. When I'm off and I'm up at 8am with DD I feel as if I've had a 14 hour sleep in comparison. He should get a decent sleep at the weekends and you should be getting up with her.

5am is no joke. You get it good the whole week, just give him the opportunity to sleep in if he wants.

So he was up anyway but just didn’t get your daughter? That’s a bit childish. Had he been wanting a lie in I would sympathise as I think you should both get a proper lie in at the weekend (one each) but given he was already up I think it’s tight of him.

Why do both YABU and YANBU say 57%?!

But he's choosing to wake at 6am on weekends by the sounds of things, so he can't really complain about it if he's chosen to do it!

My husband doesn't do lie-ins. He thinks they're a waste of time so I get to lie in till when I want every weekend while he looks after DD and during the week sometimes if he's working flexi time and going in late. I feel like it's about 50% of the reason why I married him

You should have a day each for a lie in at the weekend. Simple as that really

So basically he's choosing to get up early but he won't necessarily look after his child in that time so you also have to get up early because he's busy doing other stuff? Seems pointless, really, for two people to be awake early when one of them doesn't want or need to be.

Split the weekend

Thanks for your replies. I usually do get daughter up at weekends and let him sleep, I know he is tired. But he has decided to wake early at weekends too as he read somewhere if you train body for early wake ups they get easier, plus he wants to make more time.

I was only frustrated as he offered then retracted, but I think he was just tired and grumpy. Posted due to frustration, but over it now.

I think lots of people haven't understood your op. Anyway, sounds like it's sorted, hope you both get enough sleep soon