Getting the blame for 5 year old wetting the bed

[Pooshweens]

Every night I do bath and bedtime for our 5 year old. She always stands and pees in the bath (!) and i take her to bed straight after

Tonight she has just wet the bed and my DH came to have a go at me and tell me it's my fault

I said it's just one of those things, no ones fault and not a big deal

However he's saying it's all my fault, being a bit of a dick about it, saying I should "hold my hands up"

I've done the same process every night and she's not wet the bed

Is HBU or me!?

Accidents happen but why is she going to the toilet in the bath. That is repungent, you owe your child to teach her that the toilet is where she must go not in a bath.

Yuk.

Your his and is a mumumntal prick. Does he speak to you like this often?

I always need a wee in the bath.

What an absolute dick he sounds !! Accidents happen and she is 5....

Hope he doesnt complain at her like he does to you

What’s the big deal with her peeing in the bath - especially just as she’s getting out? Ridiculous. It’s pee, not poo

I wonder maybe, by letting her pee in the bath, she might just stand up in bed and wee? Is that what your DH thought happened?

Still, not your fault.

Why on earth are you allowing her to urinate in her bath water every night?what is she learning?
Please be a parent and insist she uses the toilet .

Maybe she's learning to save water and the planet.

@DesLynamsMoustache

Don't be ridiculous. You can pee in a toilet and not flush, therefore saving water and the planet, apparently.

Peeing in the bath is grotesque and unnecessary.

Try to tell her not to wee in the bath, get her into a good routine of using the toilet (instead of the bath).

Grotesque I love MN.

My DD was still in pull-ups at night until she was nearly 6. She just wasn’t capable. I wouldn’t make a fuss, and maybe suggest your partner does research in bed wetting. She’ll grow out if it in her own time.

Just to add the very last thing she should do before bed is her ‘last wee’. Otherwise if she does it in the bath, you’ve still got to dry her, I’m guessing do teeth, book etc after.
Not that I think it’s ‘your fault’. I hope he didn’t say any of this in front of your daughter.

Why is she weeing in the bath?

Are you the piss troll?

No it's not your fault. However, I would get her to try to go to the loo before her bath.
Some advice that I read on here that has really helped my DD with bed wetting (shes been reliably dry since we implemented these steps):

1. Have a good drink at dinner time and then nothing up to 1.5 hours before bed.
2. Always do a double wee. So wee, stories and then another wee just before lights out.
3. Drink plenty during the day to stretch the bladder.

If she doesn’t have a good toilet routine then it is your fault. She should be peeing in the toilet not the bath.

This.

Also OP, not to be harsh on you but my son was out of nappies day/night/naps at 2yo - he knew not to wee in the bath/swimming pool - she's confused as to why she can do that in the bath surely?

You say it's a one-off, in which case, your OH needs to keep his mouth shut! If your DD overhears him getting irate about it, it'll only make the whole situation worse for her, she'll feel like she's done something wrong, and she may end up doing it again! Poor girl. He needs to chill the fuck out! But please, tell her she can't go to the toilet in the bath.

Does he behave unreasonably in other ways?

Thanks for all the replies, hopefully this morning he'll apologise and realise he was being a dick!

Fair enough about peeing in the bath! It'll be hard to stop her but I'll try!!

@Crunchymum

Exactly what I thought. Especially with the unnecessary "peeing in the bath" detail.

Who or what is the pee troll?

I only mentioned the bath to point out that I knew she had recently had a wee