Getting out of bed in the morning

[Laytheblanketontheground]

I am a single parent with two adult working children. We all share the house hold jobs pretty equally. We get up at 6 in the morning weekdays for work. Im a social worker working with families with complex needs. Two days a week im out of the house 13 hours, two I finish at 3 and on Friday I finish at noon. the run to work is about an hour each way for roughly 11 miles (city traffic). I cant think of any job where id be happier, I enjoy it, I put a lot in to it and I get good feed back from clients and bosses. on work mornings I feel too tired to get out of bed and think im not going to be able to do it. at this point I always think I should give in my notice and live on the dole it would be better. its not that im anxious about work, its just I feel so tired I dont think I can get out of bed. I always do get out of bed, have breakfast and cuppa and watch the news. im never late or in a rush. once im out of the house, in the car and then at work im happy and fine. more and more recently though, I feel knackered when I wake up and wonder how I actually get up and ready and out. at weekends I wake up at the same time and have no bother getting up, I dont lie in. If I go to sleep too early I wake up at ridiculous o clock. I dont have alcohol or smoke or eat heavy meals at bed time. its just this thing of hating getting up on work mornings. does anyone have any tips, ideas or advice as to how getting out of bed early in the mornings for work can be made easier?

Could you have Burnout? You are in a high risk profession for burnout?

Op , I personally think this is down to stress. Whenever I am stressed nowadays I get what I can only describe as this awful "immobilising" sensation that feels like my two feet are glued to the floor. It's strange because when I first had it and didn't recognise it as a stress reaction, I thought I was physically unwell and unable to do anything. Nowadays I know better and can work through it and do some creative activities that help. The fact that you easily roll out of bed at the same time at weekends without any troubles seems to indicate that it's not a medical but a mh issue. You are doing exactly the right things to overcome by it by sticking to a routine but try and do some things exclusively for yourself in your spare time to help you relax and feel energised, maybe some exercise and/or something creative, maybe gardening or similar, but nothing that involves rushing about.

I feel your pain exactly! I stay in bed for ages on a Saturday then feel guilty!

Can you work remotely one day. For example pick your emails up and then go to your first appointment?

Give the op some credit Greatexpectations , she's an accomplished professional, I think she would recognise it as such if this was just an ordinary reluctance to get up. This is evidently something more than that.

When I'm up at 5.30 (every other week) I get up, teeth, dressed, grab bag, make coffee to go.

I'd rather have the sleep and I'm out in 15 minutes.

And yes, everyone hates getting up, it's like a pain and I want to cry when my alarm goes off, but when I'm out I'm out. Stop dilly dallying with tv and tea

I forgot to say op that menopause - or the approach to it - can have a massive effect on your sleep patterns. That plus stress about the job or the commute will take its toll. Could you perhaps access any workplace counselling?

Same for us all here. DH is often up before me (has to leave early for work) and will being me a cup of coffee in bed, which really helps.

Do those “TeasMade” things from the 90s still exist? It’s like a kettle alarm clock thing that automatically pours you a cuppa to wake up to!

I think it's normal. Sometimes when my alarm goes off I honestly think I'd rather just lay here until I die than get up.

My alarm goes off at 5.45 and I never want to get up! What helps is getting up, staggering to the kitchen and making a tea and then I sit on the sofa for 15 mins with my brew. I can't do rushing in the mornings, prefer to have a more relaxed start

How old are you OP? If over 45, noodle around on the menopause threads on here and check out symptoms listed on menopausedoctor.co.uk. If you’re perimenopausal then some HRT could fix you right up.

@Laytheblanketontheground

If you have an android phone I would suggest you try the gentle wake-up app that is similar to the lumie clock(I have both and use both).

changemystyle.com/gentlewakeup/

I've also cut back on carbs after 3pm, increased my vitamin b12 and vitamin D. I go for either a 20-30min walk or 60-90minutes gym workout every evening(move more). I switch of TV at 8pm and no reading on screens when I get in bed. I definitely feel more "alert" and able to get up in the mornings.

Hope that helps as a quick fix until you can get to your GP for blood tests.

* No one likes getting out of bed in the morning*

I do. Sleep well. And know that a lovely coffee will shortly be mine

* I've also cut back on carbs after 3pm,*

I find carbs in the evening (small bowl of porridge or some plain muesli with almond milk) really helps with sleep.

Full disclosure though - I’m actively trying to put on weight. When I was critically underweight, sleep was horrific. Now slowly improving - my sleep has returned and I suspect it may just be eating more generally

No, sorry I don't give op credit. She is literally saying "I don't like waking up in the morning but am fine once I have coffee. Is something wrong with me?" seriously??

@GreytExpections is that seriously what you think I said? by the way, I have decaf tea

OK, so how else am I supposed to interpret the below points?

on work mornings I feel too tired to get out of bed and think im not going to be able to do it.

You then ramble on about going on the dole and how hard getting out of bed is (well what a shock, it's hard for me to!) and then you say:

I always do get out of bed, have breakfast and cuppa and watch the news. im never late or in a rush. once im out of the house, in the car and then at work im happy and fine.

What exactly is the issue if you go on to always feel happy and fine, even if the first few minutes in bed you feel tired? That's a normal response most people have to waking up in the mornings, specially in the winter.

@ GreytExpectations
You clearly need a good restful night’s sleep

@Changeembrace nah, I'm good. But thank you for your concern

I just have very little patience for people who make big deals out of a non issue. It's attention seeking but then again this is Mumsnet and most posters on here are like that.