Crying - would you be embarrassed

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Today I was working from home. I was listening to a podcast in the background which covered a very distressing topic. I probably only listened to it for about 3 mins before switching it off but it was enough to set me off.

I'm on my period which makes me very very emotional (even cheesy ad's will set me off when I'm on).

My cleaner happened to arrive right when I was sobbing/trying pulling myself together. I couldn't control myself and ended up being emotional in front of him (I wasn't sobbing but was clearly teary). He was lovely and asked if I was okay. I excused myself and hid as soon as I could.

I'm just mortified as I'm usually a bit of an ice queen - have very close friends who have never seen me cry.

I'm just really embarrassed and never want to see him again tbh.

On a scale of 1 to 10, how much did I embarrass myself?

You sound like me. On a scale of 1-10 of embarrassment, it would be an 11 for me

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1. But I’m a bawler and don’t get ashamed or embarrassed about it.

Not at all!

He was probably worried that you'd received bad news or something but he certainly won't have thought any less of you.

I agree it'd absolutely be a 10 if it were me....

However... how would I feel if I saw someone else a bit teary? 0... I'd ask how they were if I knew them (just like he did) but certainly wouldn't think they were silly and certainly wouldn't think that they should be embarrassed! Mostly I'd just hope they were ok.

Pfft, I cried in the cinema last weekend. No spoilers but Star Wars, Dad died suddenly in May and there's a 'bit'

Surrounded by strangers, no easy exit so had to bury my face in my scarf and try to be quiet

Don’t sack him!

Empathy made you cry. Be kind to yourself. It’s not shameful.

No need to embarrassed, crying is normal.

Aw he sounds lovely. I doubt he thought any less of you, he's probably just worried about you.

Try not to stress about it. Everyone cries.

If anything it would have made you more human, if you're normally a bit stand offish. Try not to be embarrassed when you see him next. It's fine to have emotions!

Ahhh OP. You'll be fine.
I chose to watch the Windermere Children one morning this week and the postie came at the end. I was a wreck. Completely and utterly. This came on the back of watching Le Man's 66 the night before which dh sold to me as a motorsport movie. Well yes, it was Hut bloody hell the end killed me.

Probably best you don't watch either any time soon.

Max 1 OP. Crying coz something is upsetting is healthy.

I would have been embarrassed back in the day, because I wasnt allowed to show emotions growing up. I was supposed to be a little robot & it was frowned on to cry, laugh, get angry etc . Nowadays I think it's healthier & shows you have feelings, which is part of being a human being. No one has ever said unkind stuff if I've got emotional or upset, even tho I feel the need to apologise in case they think I'm imposing on their own equilibrium. Showing you're vulnerable to nice people doesn't mean they judge you harshly, tho I think some unscrupulous people would use it against you. Age means I suss & avoid that type anyway tho.

We’ve all been there! Don’t worry at all.

It happens. The cleaner might’ve been initially startled to see you upset but I’m sure he understands that people get emotional sometimes, especially in their own homes where they feel comfortable and secure. I’m sure he’ll move on so you should too.

Im a big softie and cry at adverts. Don’t sack the guy because you’re a softie. If he asks you how you are next time he sees you, you can just tell him fine now thanks, sorry for crying in front of you. And say no more.

My director at work today sent this video out as a h&s reminder. I have my period too and I sobbed my heart out.
I work with all men. They didn’t know where to look!

1 - not worth worrying about. Just forget about it.

Have you visited the Sistine Chapel?

1, several of my colleagues have seen me close to tears before now, not for any reason in particular, but because life gets in the way sometimes.

I have anxiety. Everybody has seen me cry. My friends, my family, my boss, even the office HR business partner!! It can be embarrassing but it's a human reaction. I'm sure he thought nothing of it and has probably forgotten by now.

In the last week I've cried to the school secretary, the carpenter, the man at the garage & the rat man. On a scale of 1 to 10 I give zero f**ks & neither should you!