To yearn for my old life?

[notyourmummy]

I know that I'm very lucky to have two healthy children, and a home to live in and money to buy food, and I'm quite prepared to get flamed, BUT..
I was thinking today of what I'd be doing this weekend if I didn't have children, how I'd probably have a bit of a lie-in on Saturday, do the food shopping then have a coffee and read the papers, maybe watch some sport on telly or go to the rugby. And I felt really sad that actually that's not what I'll be doing. My life revolves around a 2yo and an 8yo and I've morphed into "mum", I have no sense of me anymore, other than trying to cram in going out for a run around family life.
But then I started feeling guilty for feeling like that - I desperately wanted children and feel like I should treasure them, after all they're only little once? Should I pull my head out of my arse and accept my life's changed?!

Hmm, sounds like your DH’s attitude/behaviour might be at least part of the problem?

I read your thread because I’m totally longing for my old life right now - a Friday night with DH cooking for me, looking forward to a weekend together etc. But that’s because DH isn’t alive any more and I spent all evening breaking up sibling fights as the sole adult, as always 🙄🙄🙄

@tunnocksreturns so sorry to hear that

OP your comment that your partner doesn’t ‘get on’ with your 8 year old (presumably his own child?) rings alarm bells. It’s not a question of getting on! It’s a question of being a good parent and nurturing your child. Your problem isn’t that you are a parent: your problem is that it sounds like you are parenting alone while carrying the burden of another adult in the house. Time for a look at things?

I don't have kids (I don't intend to) ... And I LOVE my life just as it is! So yes, I see why some parents would miss what is childfree people have.