To wonder how I can carry on? I need a kick up the bum!

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My gosh, I have to pick DS up from nursery soon. I woke up this morning feeling like I was zapped of all energy but through the day it's just got worse and worse.

I have horrific tenderness when I breathe in, like I've been hit in the ribs. My whole body aches from head to toe and I'm exhausted. Sitting here in my car ready to cry it all out.

Chest infection no doubt.

Obviously I know I have to carry on so that bit is lighthearted. I just don't get how anyone can look after a toddler like this. My chest and whole body just feel like shutting down.

Hope you are OK. Do you have anyone you can call on for help so you can get a rest? X

I taught my toddler how to use the tv remotes and the dvd player, put her potty hearby with a roll of toilet paper, shut stair gates across the kitchen and bathroom, gave her a cup of water and some snacks and curled up on the sofa! Sometimes you are just too ill to do anything, feel better soon

Thanks all.. it was a hard time. I'm incredibly house proud and always have the house spotless. If it isn't then you'd know I'm really, seriously unwell. I got DS and went home, DS got some kitchen toy stuff out. DH walked in and said in a strop '' Well that's my weekend ruined then! '' I said what on earth are you on about, can't you see I'm really ill? This is so out of character for me.

He said well if you're that ill then go to bed, just go. I don't want to look at you feeling all sorry for yourself. So I did take myself to bed. And then later that night at around midnight I woke up to him stomping about the place and huffing and puffing.

I felt like I just wanted to cry and cry. I felt so lost

Also, he made complaints about the house as soon as he got in, saying how have you allowed all this mess?! At that point all he could see were a few scattered toys of DS.

I wouldn't mind but he often moans that I don't bloody stop cleaning

Wowww ok obviously I’m sorry you feel so unwell but you have a much bigger problem with your husband :(

Are you house proud yourself or are you actually keeping it so perfect so as not to piss him off?

Peg I am naturally house proud. Was before I met him. He was off with me this morning before I went to work. But better than last night. I came back home and the same again, until I gave him a lift. He tried chatting away to me in the car but I didn't feel like I could. Before getting out he asked for a kiss. I told him I didn't want to kiss him and he said '' Okay, FUCK off then'' in a flick of a switch. It's so weird the way he said it, in a nasty but smirky voice if that makes sense

What is with all these horrible, pathetic men who don’t care for their wives and partners and children when they’re sick, or new to the world, or need them or just because they should? I can’t bear it. I want to scoop you all up and take us all to go and live in a commune where we’re all immune from their cuntish ways and only those who are approved by a constantly rotating and democratically m-selected panel of women are worthy of us.

Honestly, you need a bit of TLC and your partner is being a Grade-A prick.

Sorry to hear your dh has arsehole tendencies! Unfortunately, I haven't met a man yet who doesn't.

Is his current behaviour typical?