Mother's Day..

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So, I'm 19 and I haven't been living with my mother for over a month now. She beat me whilst I was pregnant with my first child which resulted in a miscarriage. I now don't know whether I'm being a 'bad daughter' not wanting to get her a gift, card or just take her for food. After how she's treated me and my other siblings it just feels like we're rewarding her for abuse? Am I crazy?

I know Mother's Day is in March(?) but I'm so anxious about these type of things!!

Absolutely not. I would never speak to her again if I were you. Sorry for your loss

Mother's Day is a purely commercial entity.

Mothering Sunday is about the church in which you were christened and if you were working 'in service' you were given the day off to go to your 'mother' church.
As that's where most people's families would live too, they would see their mother.

But it's actually got fuck all to do with being a mother so, no, YANBU. Plus, on what planet does she deserve to be rewarded as a mother if that's how she treated her child.

Absolutely not. She doesn't deserve it.

My DM was emotionally abusive to me, something I've only understood with a therapist's help in my 30s. She's good with the grandchildren though, and clearly had her own issues. On Mother's Day I do buy a gift, but I have to select the card carefully. I'm sure she doesn't realise, but the card is always the most neutral I can find. I cannot bring myself to buy anything that gushes about 'best mother ever', or 'love you'.

In your situation I wouldn't even do that. I'd cut contact if at all possible, for your own sanity and safety's sake. Don't feel guilty. She's not done anything to deserve your love.