To cancel the trip?

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We are due to go away for a few nights tomorrow. I have two children 9 months and 4 years.
Yesterday my friend looked after my 4 year old as she has a 4 year old too and they are good friends. We often help eachother out.
Today she has told me he was sick and has a bug. She was with them all day yesterday and I know they are very relaxed with eachother (wouldn't think twice if sharing a spoon...)

I'm worried my 4 year old is going to get sick and it will be a nightmare being away.

He was sick at nursery and they are both at the same one, my 4 year old wasn't aware he had been sick.

My other half thinks we should just go and not cancel and lose money for something that may it may not happen.

What would you do? AIBU to say we shouldn't go??

So you want to cancel just in case your child gets sick despite them not showing any signs of sickness?!
Sorry but that’s crazy!

Who are they staying with when you're away? If it's someone she's very used and is comfortable with, then i would go. How far away will you be?

They are coming with us!!

Is the break in the UK?

Are your DC going with you?

I think I'd go, but be prepared to cut the break short

They are coming with us!!

well go then, bloody hell!

I’d go! It might not happen and if it does, they bounce back fast at that age.

Your friends child has been sick and you are all going away together, you are worried you will also all get it.... your son more precisely because of the spoon share??
Mmm not easy... if their child continues to be sick perhaps they won’t go, you get the holiday to yourselves!
Wait and see. I wouldn’t cancel just in case though. You could stay home and he still get sick having caught the big a few days ago.

I would go. She may not get sick so doesn't seem a good idea to cancel and lose money on the off chance your dd is going to get sick. Children of that age can seem really ill then are over it in 24 hours. So even if she did get sick she may be ok for some of the holiday. Partly depends on how far you are going though. You can always go back home if the worst happens but you wouldn't want a long journey with a sick child. Also depends where you are staying. Your own cottage accommodation ...no problem. If staying with others more difficult especially if the others have children of their own. On balance, if she isn't ill by the time you are setting off, I would still go.

I’d go. He might not catch the bug!

Your friends child has been sick and you are all going away together, you are worried you will also all get it...

I think she meant her own kids are coming not the sick friends child?

Sorry if I have been unclear. Trying to do stuff at home and rushing.

My family are going away (DD x2, my OH and I)

We are not going away with family who had sick child today

Just go. If you cancelled every event ‘just in case’ you will never go anywhere.
Maybe throw a couple of extra towels and some disinfectant/alcohol hand sanitizer in your bag if you would feel happier but don’t cancel.

definitely go. chances are there won't be any illness and you will have a great holiday. and it would be silly to sit at home waiting for an illness that doesn't happen.

I think I would rather not go.

My OH is not pleased with me.

I like to say I'm ex Emetophobic, but clearly I need to revisit my therapy. Although it's a massive improvement compared to how I would have reacted before.

Feeling stressed

I wouldn't be cancelling a trip away on the off chance they might get ill. They're kids. Kids are forever coming into contact with germs and incubating god knows what.

YABU. You should go, there is no certainty they’ll get sick. And you’d have to deal with it at home anyway, presumably?

I know how these things can feel when your dcs are young, but your DH is right on this one.

If I were your DH and kids I would be massively pissed off. Your 'issues' are yours.. no right to make your family suffer.

It's simple.. if you are emetophobic then just say to your DH that he has do deal with any sickness... problem solved..

Btw how would this be different if you stayed home ? Surely sick at home or sick away is still sick ???

You have a child in nursery, surely you realise that they could come down with a bug at any time. Go on the holiday. Tell your DH that he has to deal with any sickness, if it happens, and there’s a good chance it won’t. Which I’m presuming would be the same as if you stayed home.

Just go. Have an emergency sick bag in the car, wipes and a change of clothes.

I know it's unreasonable maybe. But I feel quite anxious after not feeling like this for a while. My 9 month old has a compromised immune system, so have I. Last time I had a stomach bug a year ago I ended up in hospital for 3 weeks and really poorly.

Sorry I appreciate this is a bit of a drip feed

My son is 7. He has never contracted a sickness bug despite being in contact with other kids. My DH has had a bug and I haven't got it and I got a bug once and dh didn't catch it. You just dont know.

I'm hoping because she wasn't actually in contact with vomit, it might be okay.