in thinking that my DH who has had a lovley lie in should clear up his breakfast things before leaving the house to meet up with us!?

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Men don't always think. Have a deal that if you get a lie in and are child free you clean up your things too.

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I know how you feel - when I have any time on my own I would feel massively guilty if I didn't tidy my own mess (and generally do other householdy things as well).

YANBU. Leave it next time until he does it! Or he has to do something else like cooking.

I really don't understand all this. My DH does just as much around the house as me, and even though he will have chill time and then do jobs, I am the other way around it works well. He will do anything I ask him to do but half the time he just does it anyway.

If you aren't happy with your partner's contribution around the house sort it out.

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Why does he panic?

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I said to my dh "its the last day we can go out together for a while so how we go somewhere nice?" (I was thinking a NT place (there are a few our DC want to visit) or the beach or a woodland walk. so he said "nice idea I'll sort something out". So I got up this morning all excited and he has planned to take us to his parents house no thanks I'd rather not bother so I offered to stay home and bake some goodies whilst he took the kids there!

He sounds like me at the weekends...

tell him that when he has a lie-in then he clears away the breakfast things and leaves the kitchen tidy. He might need a written list to be sure he's done everything.

couldn't help but lol mrs weasley - hope your day goes ok.

I am afraid most need to be asked and in a nice way and then praised much like a small child. How do I know this? I have asked friends and family and my mother who has a useless dh (my lovely father who I adore). I HATE having to ask as though dh is doing a favour but apparently he's too far gone (blame the mil). Now my ds will be different I hope

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