to hate holidays?

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I know a lot of people don't enjoy holidays after having children but I don't feel like I ever really enjoyed them. I don't like being away from home, I don't like travelling, I don't like packing, or unpacking, or unfamiliar beds. I absolutely loathe flying to the extent I have not been abroad since DS was born 4 years ago. My preferred "holiday" is just taking a week off work and pottering around with DH and DS, going on day trips and out for nice lunches.

I did a fair bit of travelling pre-DS and I've been to some lovely places but honestly 99% of the time I'd have been just as happy at home with my book and a cuppa. AIBU?

I hate holidays too, even though I try not to. I go on them for the children - they enjoy them and have a lovely time so there's no way I'd stop them or complain about them. But I just tolerate them for the most part. My own house is lovely, with a fantastic bed, a great shower, is comfy, cosy and clean. Why would I want to go somewhere that has not such a nice bed, not such a nice shower and sometimes questionable levels of comfort? It doesn't really make sense to me! I like being in my own home with everything I need at hand.

The only time I don't mind travelling is when I'm going to see someone specific, then I feel it's worth it, even if the surroundings are ropey.

I am terrified of flying which definitely doesn't help.

I haven't been away for five years and not really missed it! I've been talked into a trip at Easter and I'm dreading it especially the washing when I get back as well. All the reasons you list are ones I feel too.
I like being at home. I used to love travelling when I was much younger but these days it's just faff and expensive wherever you go.
(I'm sure I'll enjoy it when I get there but I can't wait to get home too)
Some people love holidays! They think I'm odd.

She was stressed, anxious, cranky, martyred and 100 % a killjoy on any holiday. She also made herself physically ill with worry / anxiety every time so we had daily updates on the state of her insides

OK, I'm not like that.

I love it, the complete change of scene really recharges and de stresses me. Of course you're not being unreasonable to prefer to stay at home though

I am like you OP. Holidays fill me with dread. I think it started as a child when we always drove to Italy in old fashioned, un-airconditioned cars, over three days, and never being allowed to stop for a wee. We did stay for a month though, and that I loved.

My ideal now is going somewhere I have been before, and for a long time. I know you have to go for the first time, but then by the third it is so much better. So I know the flight, the airport, the transfer, the hotel, what the room and food will be like, what is there, and what we will do. I am still stressed by the whole thing, but can manage it. Funnily enough, I would now rather drive if possible, and am happy with three different destinations (in two countries) wow !

Sorry I pressed the wrong button by mistake. No I feel the same. I just keep the peace and go for the sake of the kids having a weeks holiday away if it’s Spain or away to Northumberland or Scotland in a caravan.

I can't organise doing the freaking laundry let alone packing my clothes

We love our UK holidays with the kids I'm like a different person on holiday so relaxed and that's with the kids we go to Spain once a year but it's not really like a proper holiday it's to visit pil.

We do enjoy camping, I think because you can just decide to go on a whim, you don't stay for very long and if the weather is pants or you just get fed up you can just up and leave without really wasting any money.

We went away loads as children, my parents are big travellers. I felt the same then to be honest, and there was nothing stressful about those holidays. It's just being away from home in general. I can remember going to a lovely old house in France when I was about seven and just crying every night because I wanted to go home so badly.

YANBU. Holidays just make
Me anxious and I hate all of the faff. I have awful IBS which is never fun when travelling or away from home, packing is a total ballache and I spend the entire time counting down the days until I can go home again. I’ll have a few fleeting moments of “oh this is nice, I’m enjoying myself” while I’m away, but they’re too few to be worth it.

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A friend of mine once said, you should never go on holiday to a place that is not as comfortable/nice as your own home! Makes perfect sense . I agree with you reasoning.

YANBU!! I've enjoyed parts of travel, but there are so many other aspects of it that I hate, that the cons honestly outweigh the pros.

It's just different personality types, and I think some of it comes down to how you enjoy spending your time. My hobbies are almost all things that I can do right in my own home, and I can happily spend whole days engaged in them, so I don't often need to "venture forth" to be satisfied. As long as the supplies hold out, I'd rather be home.

Nothing wrong with loving travel, but I do feel frustrated by people who think that you must be bored if you don't also love it, or who think that you're boring or close-minded if you'd rather stay home.

I don't like holidays either. They sometimes seem like a good idea at the time but as they get closer I dread them.
My preference is a nice holiday house in the uk. Within a few hours drive. I definitely couldn't face an airport followed by plane travel and transfers. I enjoy days out and we do lots of those during school holidays. We also holiday 2/3 times a year but mostly because the children enjoy it so much and dh is self employed so if I don't physically book something he would never take time off.