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AIBU to block partner's mum on social media?

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Nervousnellie1 · 30/01/2020 10:27

I have been with my partner 4 years and we have a 4 month old son together. My partner was pretty much raised by his grandparents who are dead now. I never met them but they sounded like lovely people. I've met his mother twice and the two times I've met her she doesn't acknowledge me at all, I don't know if she's just rude or if it's nerves but it really bothers me. I've told my partner I don't feel comfortable around his mother and it actually upsets me that she treats me like this. I try to speak to her but she looks the other way and doesn't give me anything back so I don't want to be around her. When I had given birth to our son last year she came to the hospital to see him and didn't acknowledge my existence at all and acted like he was just my partner's child. She hasn't seen my son since he was born and has made no effort to see him either, I've told other half he can take our son to see her if he wishes but I want to part in this. I think of when my son is older and if he seen her treat me this way, that wouldn't be a good thing for him to witness. I'd rather just stay away from her for my own mental sanity too as it really bothers me and the way she was after I gave birth is still very fresh in my mind and has made me feel unimportant and small, I think it's affected me more than I thought it would. Anyway.. When my partner puts pictures up of my son on social media his mum comments saying "my boy" meaning my son. I know this sounds really pathetic but this upsets me as she has only met him once and has never asked to see him again. It's actually getting to a point where I can feel my blood boiling when she puts these comments. I'm not friends with her on social media but do you think it would be a good idea to block her so I can't see these comments or am I being totally unreasonable?

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Nanny0gg · 30/01/2020 16:34

What does your DP say about her?

KundaliniRising · 30/01/2020 16:36

FizzyGreenWater that was a brilliant bit of wording.

Aye better still get your dp to post it

Just block her op, she is beyond rude.

BronteSisters · 30/01/2020 16:56

Fuck it. I wouldn't block her at all! I'd reply to each and every comment of hers saying "My boy? You've bothered to meet him ONCE. How's he yours?!"

Your partner doesn't deserve you "keeping the peace" because he has stood by all this time and allowed his mother refuse to speak to you and to completely ignore you!

RebelWithVerySharpClaws · 30/01/2020 17:28

Block her. Don't put pics up. Tell your DH you don't want your son taken to visit her. Tell your DH to grow a pair and have your back.

TabbyMumz · 30/01/2020 18:20

When you put a pic up, restrict her from seeing it. Shecwont even know she is restricted.

wictional · 30/01/2020 18:46

'Hello X how lovely to see you on here. Yes, our boy is amazing, and he is so totally different now to when you met him so briefly that one time! Let me know if you would like to meet him again, it would be lovely for him to see you properly now he is a bit bigger and begin to know who his Granny is!'

I like this, only i’d say “he is so totally different now to when you last saw him back in the delivery room” - a bit subtler Wink

TheDarkPassenger · 30/01/2020 18:52

Oh my god the best thing ever is the poster who thinks we’re not a part of Europe.

I love life

Snowfalling20 · 30/01/2020 19:02

She sounds like my ex mil. Like I did not exist. Amazed your DH has a social media account with his mum on it!

I’m not sure about blocking. You’d still see her comments wouldn’t you? You can block from yours but she doesn’t seem to care. It’s her sons account she wants.

Maybe block her.

And then say to DH is it okay with pics of kids go on your account only with restricted viewing for their privacy.

If he complains his mum can’t see say he’s welcome to send her pics privately.

I can’t stand this isolating and ignoring. It’s a form of bullying.

Keepmewarm · 30/01/2020 19:05

I have family like this. I don’t put photos of the dc on social media so they can no longer pretend that they know them.
The really sad bit is that they don’t appear to have noticed.

Nervousnellie1 · 31/01/2020 10:41

Thank you guys for all the responses! I spoke to DP last night and explained how his mum makes me feel. He was very supportive and said he has my back on this. We have also decided not to put pictures on social media as some of you suggested and it's definitely for the best. Oh and I did block her, I don't want to see anything she puts on DP page so she's blocked for good.

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UYScuti · 31/01/2020 10:48

Anyone who treated me as if I didn't exist would get exactly the same treatment back, you should not acknowledge her presence in any way shape or form, as far as you are concerned she's dead.

Nervousnellie1 · 31/01/2020 11:13

@UYScuti yup that's exactly what I'm doing from now on!

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