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Original poster

Do I send DD to nursery tomorrow?

33 replies

Pushpushpoosh · 30/01/2020 00:51

She's 3 and does mornings at school nursery. She's on medication for her chest to prevent chest infections getting nasty.

She started with a cough on Monday after nursery and was sick in bed Monday night due to her cough, didn't sleep much at all so kept her off Tuesday. Same again Tuesday night sick in bed so kept her off today but she's been much perkier today. I'm laid in bed now listening to her coughing away but not sick tonight. I'm worried about poor attendance as she gets quite poorly with a cold etc and was last absent from nursery for the last 2 days before Christmas holidays.
However feel mean sending her to nursery tomorrow when she'll be tired from coughing but I know she'll be her lively self at home.

AIBU to send her in or would you keep her off?

OP posts:
managedmis · 30/01/2020 00:52

It's just the morning? I'd send her in, then home for a nap (hopefully)

YouBoggleMyMind · 30/01/2020 00:53

I'd see how she is in the morning and decide. Does attendance matter at nursery like it does at school? Is it monitored in the same way?

Misspollyskettle · 30/01/2020 00:53

I’d keep her home.

PickleMyPepper · 30/01/2020 00:54

I'd keep her off, one more day won't hurt.

KellyHall · 30/01/2020 00:54

If you can easily keep her off, I would. If you really need to send her in, provided she's not worse in the morning, do.

Original poster
Pushpushpoosh · 30/01/2020 00:56

I can easily keep her off, I just worry about attendance and missing things etc. Will definitely see how she is in the morning though.

OP posts:
DecemberSnow · 30/01/2020 00:57

At 3 attendance is not important

Lumene · 30/01/2020 01:15

I would keep her home - she’s only 3

MustShowDH · 30/01/2020 01:31

Who cares about attendance at 3?

I'd keep her off. Not fair on other parents or staff to spread whatever she's got about. They're little germ catchers at that age anyway.

HomerSimpsonSmilingPolitely · 30/01/2020 01:33

She's only 3, attendance doesn't matter. See how she is in the morning and if she's still sick keep her home.

Mrschainsawuk · 30/01/2020 01:39

Send her in

Toffeecakes · 30/01/2020 03:15

Sending her in will infect other children, attendance doesn’t matter for 3 year olds. Plus, disturbed sleep will make her feel awful. Keep her off.

Billyeyelash · 30/01/2020 04:18

I'd keep her off until Monday so she can rest and recover.
Attendence doesn't matter at 3.

Zeusthemoose · 30/01/2020 04:30

Poor attendance from nursery?? Confused
Keep her off if she's awake coughing poor thing, she'll be shattered.

Rainallnight · 30/01/2020 04:32

Attendance really doesn’t matter at 3. There’s no legal requirement for them to be there.

InkogKneeToe · 30/01/2020 04:43

Is she asthmatic? Night time coughing is a symptom of asthma. May be worth getting her looked at if it's a regular thing.

Fucket · 30/01/2020 04:56

She’s poorly, even if your child was school age, I wouldn’t send her in.

She’s on medication because she’s prone to nasty chest infections aka pneumonia.

Don’t put your child’s health before their attendance record. It’s middle of winter.

When I get those shitty little letters from school about my ds attendance (genuine health problems) I rip them up and put them in the recycling bin.

Schools are obliged to send them, but know that it’s all bollocks. I guess they are trying to improve their own statistics.

Stressedout10 · 30/01/2020 06:08

48 hours after sickness

myself2020 · 30/01/2020 06:11

If she is happy in the morning, send her, if she’s poorly don’t. a cough alone wouldn’t be a reason to not send mine - my youngest would be off from november to march

Itsseweasy · 30/01/2020 06:14

Poor thing, she’s still a baby really. I’d definitely keep her home for cuddles, naps when she needs them and plenty of liquids to wash all the yuck through her little body.
Also as previous poster said, it’s 48 hours for sickness.

user1480880826 · 30/01/2020 06:17

Poor attendance?! She’s at nursery! She’s not doing her A Levels. Bloody hell OP. Sick children need to be at home.

Doodledoom · 30/01/2020 06:18

For everyone asking about attendance, it still does matter for the 3 and 4 year old funding. If a child has too much time off in a term then the council can and sometimes do pull the funding from the child. Meaning the lose all entitlement to their free 15hours.

I can't see it happening in this case as its to do with health and they wouldn't pull funding due to a child's ill health

PrincessSarene · 30/01/2020 06:23

When you say she was sick in bed, you mean she actually threw up as opposed to was just poorly? If so, then most places need at least 48hrs before you send them back in, so your DD shouldn’t be going in until at least Friday, assuming she is better by then.

Nursery attendance isn’t a thing in the same way school attendance for over 5s is, so keep your DD at home until it’s been 48hrs since she threw up and she’s fully recovered and rested.

MyDcAreMarvel · 30/01/2020 06:24

That does not happen if a child is sick , ever.

Didshereally · 30/01/2020 06:27

She was sick Tuesday night, nurseries, schools and colleges usually have a 48 hour period clear policy after child last vomited a that is NHS guidance. So you cannot return her to nursery until Friday at the earliest & even then only if you feel she's well enough. This is an easy call, stay home.

Don't worry about attendance, at her age she's missing some colouring in line drawn balloons on paper (maths), playing (Co ordination and developing social skills) , not quadratic equations.