Am I being precious ?

[opinionminion]

I've had a flu type virus ... started on Sunday and I've been in bed since. Been drinking water (had bottled) and taking painkillers but only eaten half slice of toast.
Literally felt so bad ... my temperature was through the roof and ache terribly. Managed to get up an hour a go and venture downstairs. Had a few spoons of yogurt and back in bed. I feel wobbly (understandably) and exhausted.
I am definitely over the worst.

My question is ... I live on my own and my boyfriend of five months lives an hour away.
He knew I was feeling poorly and has messaged me once a day.
I drive to his after work on a Friday and stay until Sunday then drive home run around doing washing / ironing/ food shopping ready for the working week ahead. He comes over midweek stays for a few hours then goes home.
AIBU to expected more care from him when it was clear I felt so unwell ?

Does he not work, ? I'm assuming not if you think he should do a two hour round trip to drop some paracetamol through your letter box.

Personally I'd not wish to see someone if I was ill, id certainly be worried they catch it, it's shit for other person, and I'd find paracetamol through my letter box odd.

If you don't want to go to his, don't. That's a different subject.

GiveHerHellFromUs he normally messages lots before work. A lunchtime hello/ how's your day going and calls twice in the evening with messages in between.

He just doesn't care enough, does he? It's all on his terms with him making minimal effort. You're worth so much more than that, OP.

If you do keep on seeing him, the very least you can do is take your washing there and get it washed, dried and ironed at his house. He should be putting some petrol in your car, too.

Bluntness100 he has his own business.

In that case @opinionminion he's being a shit head. Has he mentioned the weekend? Is he expecting you to go to him as normal?

Sounds like he's only interested when you're 'fun' and pandering to him. He's not too keen on being the one who's doing the pandering.

He could have messaged you a bit more frequently but I wouldn't have expected him to visit as he would end up catching it as well.

It’s a fairly new relationship and he lives quite far away - I think you’re expectations are too high. Driving a 2 hour round trip to post a box a painkillers you hadn’t asked for through your letterbox would be really weird. I don’t think anyone in their right mind would do this?! And lots of people want to be left alone when they’re unwell- he’s probably one of these types. If you want practical help then ask for it, if you want a chat to cheer you up then call him!

And I hope you feel better soon.

GiveHerHellFromUs no mention as no call or anything in message just how are you ? Managed to type one word- rubbish.
HollowTalk that seems like a good idea about my washing. I could never ask for petrol although he earns heaps more than me.

ShyTown Thank you. I'm definitely feeling a lot brighter this evening.