Felt like he broke up with me out of spite - AIBU?

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3 months in, he was messaging frequently, planning all the dates, driving it... No pressure to get me into bed either although he was keen and asked me to stay over. Seemed like it was starting to get serious.

We had a mini-argument halfway through when something weird happened and we left it for a few days as a result (instigated by me) - he was asking me to give him another chance, planned dates etc and wanted to make it up to me - I asked for some space for a few days.

I got over it within a few days and we met up one more time, I psyched myself up and was excited, it was a good date - now he says he's not feeling it and has ended it.

I can't help but feel this was a response to my reaction to his comment... and it hurts... Feel like it's tit for tat behaviour. The thing he did was definitely weird and the kind of thing you can accept once you know the person a few months in but not after a few weeks.

Not sure why I feel down about it, I assumed because we had a connection - AIBU to feel this way?

YANBU to feel sad that the relationship has finished. But at least it's happened in the early stages.

It leaves you free to find someone more suited to you.

Sorry you're upset, OP.

@TheMustressMohr the OP has specifically requested people not to link, due to name changes. Having seen the thread, I know it’s not because she’s hiding something that makes any difference to this thread.
@aroundtheworldyet has given a sufficient summary already anyway.

You both sound very immature, and don't seem to be able to handle the ups and downs in a relationship.

It sounds like he's playing mind games with you and no decent person needs that, so consider it a lucky escape. Plenty more fish in the sea. Put him out of your mind.

Thanks @Ellisandra (and all who have contributed positively!) - @1forall74, I'm going to let that one go as I don't think it's fair.

For context, I gave it another go as he seemed genuinely upset and was insistent that this was unlike him. He also was a great guy on all the dates. Think it just rankles

Everyone told you he was a dick on the last thread. He's just showing you who he is. Stop investing all this energy into this idiot

I read your other thread, OP - he is no great loss.

I think your instinct was right to distance yourself, he managed to worm his way back into you giving him another chance, only for him to take that opportunity to take 'control' back by then dumping you and ending it on his terms.

He's a prick, your instincts were right.

Posters cannot answer with half a thread

He dumped you because you didn't repsond to the information in the way his ideal next victim would. Be exquisitely grateful that you weren't an attractive victim prospect to him.

He dumped you for not being abusable enough. That's a good thing.

Honestly he showed you who he was and you quite rightly ended it, you then take him back and are now sad he retaliated

What did you expect really? He’s a dickhead! He is happy to treat women like shit, in fact he seems to think it makes him cool and a player.

I would question why you wanted to give him another go and gently suggest you may need to work on you and your self esteem!