To find this inappropriate??

[CuriousMumma]

Discussing when and where you lost your virginity with your teenage child?? Inappropriate or not???

Ds is 15 and recently told me that his dad had told him about the time he lost his virginity. He can't remember when he told him exactly but he thinks he was 14. I just find this weird tbh.

(Ex brought a girl back to his parents house where he shared a room and bunk beds with his younger brother, so younger brother heard everything )

Just to add Ds told his dad he was disgusting

Hmm I don't think it's inappropriate to talk about as such. If they ask! However your son was embarrassed and tbh I would have been embarrassed at that age if one of my parents shared stories about their sex life.
Maybe it's just how he told him the story and it's not come off well.
On this occasion it was inappropriate because it made your son uncomfortable.

It's not weird. The ability to hold an open dialogue with your child about sex is very important in order to keep that child safe! I would have this discussion with my child in respect to discussing at what age people lose their virginity. There's a lot of social pressure among teens to do it earlier and earlier, the voice of real experience tempered with age could be very useful.

Well, I won't be discussing anything like that with DD. My own DM has started oversharing about her current relationship, I've told her I don't know why she's telling me, it's none of my business. Apparently DS1 (29) has told her the same thing.

I wish more parents were as open about sex and their own sexual history as you DH. It is the perfect opportunity to discuss healthy and safe practices.

Too many young people are learning about sex from pornography. They think the violent and decidedly unloving things happening in those videos are normal sexual behaviour.

Yeah being open with your kids is fine, you want them to be able to talk to you about anything, including stuff you might not want to hear, if he was telling your child when he was 7 then yes that would be rank🥴

If it was part of a sex Ed conversation and being prepared/lessons learned it was appropriate

I've talked to 16yp dd about sex, about when I lost my virginity and how important it it's to have sex with someone who you love and who loves you and who you know and trust. I have not gone into gory details but it's important for teens to know that sex is important and lovely and fun when done responsibly.

And I have also talked to her about i sexual things you can do and what I did and that it's OK not to do things if she doesn't want to , e.g. porn, choking, etc.