I’ve asked questions on various things about this situation so people may recognise it.
I’ll try my best to make a very long story slightly shorter. Grandad lived very near to my mum all my life, so although I didn’t have a close relationship with him he was always around. He died earlier this month. Mum didn’t really bother with him when he was poorly (she tried to do things for him in the past and he was always ungrateful) I knew he was an abusive father when she was a child and her brother said that he wanted to speak to her when he was really ill. She went and he didn’t say anything remarkable.
He died and afterwards her brother was arguing saying she didn’t bother with him and she’s just jealous as they got money and items from him and she didn’t. It was then revealed that he used to sexually abuse her when she was a child. All hell broke loose and both her brothers were very angry with her and very nasty. One apologised, one didn’t. The one that did apologise I am quite close to and he’s been there for me in the past and I know he cares for me. Mum didn’t go to the funeral but I did, to try and keep the peace and due to the fact mum had promised them she wouldn’t tell me what grandad dad.
They have now all deleted mum and dad off Facebook but kept me, I know it’s only Facebook but to me it speaks volumes.
I’m due to get married soon and they were all invited but I’ve not had one response, leaving a full table empty and potentially a bridesmaid down as all part of that side of the family.
what do I do? Take mums side now and cut ties? Stay civil? I just feel like I don’t know when the point is that I say I’m now standing by mum 100%. I would be sad to lose them but I can’t stand my mum being hurt for something that has not been her fault.