Is it normal to feel this way ?

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I’m in the first trimester of my first pregnancy . Very much wanted baby , my Husband and I have always dreamed of being parents and honestly it’s our little miracle baby and I can’t wait to be a Mother and he can’t wait to be Father . Very financially stable , own house etc
I am very much a happy individual , very care free usually and constantly singing , making jokes , I just love life .
I can’t help but have noticed a shift in how I’m feeling and I’m not sure if it’s normal but don’t want to google anything as I have done that during this pregnancy so far over things like cramps and convinced myself I’m going to lose the baby. So I’m avoiding that.
I have zero interest in talking to anyone , going out . I’m finding work hard but I love my job and would never not go in unless I was very unwell (like when my sickness got bad I took a week off). I don’t want to clean and I am a very enthusiastic cleaner and love keeping the house tidy . I’ve been struggling to cook tea which is something I’ll always do for when my husband gets home as he works shifts and I like him to have a meal when he gets home .
I have a constant anxious feeling like a weight on me that I can’t lift . I’ve got no interest in sex , I’m tired , feel constantly sick and no longer enjoying food . I almost feel depressed but not sure if that’s the right way to describe it ? I feel awful as it’s a very much planned and wanted pregnancy and I can’t seem to put my finger on why I feel like this ?
My husband is equally concerned but I don’t want to burden him with how I’m feeling too much . Also want to add in case anyone thinks I’m not getting help with house work - my husband always helps out and has told me numerous times to stop worrying about getting his food and washing done as we are a married couple and it’s his responsibility too. I couldn’t be luckier with my husband he’s amazing and will never expect me to do anything but I think I’m expecting too much of myself ? Can anyone advise , is this normal ? I’ve got nobody to talk to really . I have a big family but they’re very much ‘it’ll pass’ etc which isn’t ideal when you need a hand hold. My husband has said to tell my consultant when I see her (I’m consultant led) but for now is this a normal feeling ?
Sorry for the long one x

Exhausted and grouchy is par for the course for me in the first trimester, OP, and I’ve done it three times now. It tends to improve hugely around 12-14 weeks. That said, antenatal depression is a real thing so if you’re are feeling persistently down I’d encourage you to chat to your doctor.

In short, hormones. I feel borderline depressed at 15 weeks, but I know it's just the impact of elevated hormones - being on certain types of pill has made me feel exactly the same before.

I don't get the massive mood swings from high to low, but I do just generally feel low and withdrawn. Much wanted baby, we're very happy to become parents - I just feel a bit shit, and I haven't even had terrible physical symptoms.

Looking forward to pregnancy being over. I guess try and still see friends and get support? I'm struggling to do that though!

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The first few months are awful. Just exhausted and miserable. It will get better soon. If not talk to your midwife. You can get pre natal depression.

@AppropriateAdult thank you , if it continues I’ll mention it to my consultant and midwife in two weeks time at my 12 week scan appointment.
@4amWitchingHour I really hope you start to feel better soon 💕
@yellowallpaper thank you , I hope it passes

All sounds within normal parameters but I'd chat with consultant just so they can monitor.

If this has been a dream for some time, reality doesn't always match the dream and that can make you feel low too. I can remember thinking that I'd seen all these glowing women, all these perfect pregnancies, and why didn't I feel that - I just felt exhausted, irritable, and definitely not glowing!

@shawshanksredemption yes exactly that ! Nobody openly talks about how it can make you feel really bad , unless you come on blogging sites or networking pages but I’d never heard of Depression in pregnancy only post pregnancy . I’ll definitely keep an eye on it . I do have a history of depression from many years ago and it doesn’t feel quite that bad . And I’m definitely not glowing either !

Hi, have you had your iron and ferritin levels checked? Or your B12 and folate? These can do during pregnancy, and make you feel terrible.

@silvery I had my routine blood test at my booking appointment and haven’t had a call back about any poor results , do they test for that ? I honestly feel so so low it’s horrible

I do take iron tablets though

Aww I felt the same the first few weeks. I couldn't cook as I felt sick and didn't want to eat, I had to go to bed straight in from work as I was drained, exhausted and emotional. I remember around 10 weeks my mother in law was coming to visit, I hadn't cleaned as I usually liked to and I sat on the stairs crying convinced I couldn't go on. We laugh about it now but I felt deadly serious at the time.

It passed around 13 weeks but you should definitely let your midwife or consultant know as you can suffer with antenatal depression. I hope passes soon. Your hormones are wild at this stage, hang in there.

It sounds like anxiety brought on by hormones in all honesty. I feel exactly the same at the moment (not pregnant) and know it’s anxiety plus a health problem which can cause fatigue.

First trimester always sucks and low iron is horrendous - like all energy has been drained out of you

I didnt feel better until about 16 weeks

I felt totally fed up in pregnancy and not myself at all.

Also get your iron checked - anaemia can give you low mood as well as physical symptoms

I can completely relate to this, same as you it was a very much longed for baby, but those first few months I felt quite miserable, sometimes depressed, sometimes angry at the most minor things. It was horrible because I’m normally quite an emotionally stable person, and I felt like my emotions weren’t really in my control at all, I felt a lot better about half way through the pregnancy. It doesn’t help at the beginning that you’re soooooo tired as well. Honestly I’d take the tiredness that goes with having a newborn over early pregnancy tiredness, I just felt tired to my bones and no amount of sleep seemed to help. Do speak to people, it will help, and know you’re not alone in feeling like this!