To not answer the door?

[Thebearwentoverthemountain]

Was due to meet my parents this week as I do every week but I’ve sent them a message to cancel as I feel like shit.

I have a feeling they will want to come over anyway and have a tendency to just show up unannounced or give me a 5 minute warning.

My house is a shit tip and I just don’t want company today.

If they do show up unannounced can I just not answer the door? It drives me mad and they know I don’t like it!

It comes across like they think their time is more important than mine.

@Leaannb, I was addressing the messy house point only. The OP is free to do as she wishes. In a further post, she explained that her parents would judge her on a messy house, so my point was moot anyway.

Your parents sound like my in-laws. They’ll phone when they’re already on their way so my other half feels he can’t say no. Quite often I just make my excuses and go out, though I shouldn’t have to. I get sick of being talked over, not listened to, judged and having to make endless cups of tea. Not ideal...

If you don't want visitors, you don't want them. Perfectly acceptable choice, doesn't mean there's "something wrong" or you're "depressed"...you may just not want the bother of company today and you shouldn't have to justify that to anyone. I can't believe the posters on here who have an issue with that.

As long as you've made it clear for them not to come, switch your phone off, lock the door and, if necessary, close the downstairs curtains. And then get on with what you had planned and ignore, ignore.

I do this regularly, as you can probably tell. At other times I'm very sociable, so no, I'm not a recluse/depressed or whatever.

Thanks all!

Glad there are others who agree or don’t think I’m crazy!

We used to live in fear at the weekends that they would just appear (which annoys DH even more than me) but they have gotten better. It’s just my non working days where they may appear now