To be hurt at not being invited?

[Hangingwithmygnomies]

I have a group of friends who I met through work and have known close to 15 years. Most of the group left where we work but a couple of us are still there and we all meet up as often as we can outside of work, both with our children (they are all very similar in age) and without. They've had a few kiddie meet ups and not always invited me which I put down to the fact they know I can't always make certain events due to having an autistic chid and it's not always easy to get him out of the house or they've met while I'm at work. Whilst it stung, I appreciate my child's issues shouldn't mean they don't meet up if I can't. Today I found out that they all got together at one of their houses for dinner last weekend for a Mum's night without the children. I am really upset as it seems I am the only one out of the group who wasn't invited. AIBU to be so hurt by this or am I being over sensetive?

Yanbu to be upset, It is awful.
My advice kindly is get use to it.
My DS is not bold he usually takes himself away and lines up haribo, I always bring a pack, though he had a meltdown pre diagnosed at a friend's DD's party 2 years ago. We had about 6 DC parties in rotation when his next one came, the majority were busy, he hasn't been invited again, my niece is in the same class in school she gets invited to most parties, he hasn't been invited to one.
Exclusion is a really hard part for the parents of DC with SN. I've developed a thick skin.

Thank you all, it's nice to know I'm not being ridiculous to be upset by it.

Bluntness100 I did wonder if it maybe something like that. I didn't think I'd declined that many things but maybe I have. Maybe they think I don't want to be involved anymore? It just felt a little, I don't know, awkward when she mentioned where they'd gone. There seemed to be a tiny hesitation before she said it, almost as if she realised what she was about to say. I won't fall out with them, that would be silly as we do all get along but I think I'll just maybe take a step back a little and realise that something has changed and I'm not in the group as much as I thought I was. I do have a few close friends away from them/work, so I'll be ok, it just stings a little to realise they don't think as much of me as I do them

I feel sad for you OP.
The fact they were hesitant in answering stinks.
Though the up lifting side is there are lots of parent's in your situation who welcome friendships.

Sympathies, OP - I’m starting to see this happen myself (my DD has ASD). On the plus side, having a child with SN sorts the wheat from chaff - you find out who your true friends are and that can be kind of liberating in a weird way. You sound like a very calm, dignified person and I think your approach is spot on - no need for drama, just leave them to it and focus on those more worthy of your friendship. They sound pretty shitty tbh.

I am sorry op - it could be that you have not been able to go to a few in a row. I have a friend like that and I started to question whether I was actually causing a problem for her - inviting her all the time along with the others and her always saying no. I got to a point where I was wondering if she was trying to give me a hint but I was not getting it. It started to get awkward and I considered not inviting her anymore.
I hope you get it sorted - talking to a mutual friend makes sense.

Sympathies @Hangingwithmygnomies as a fellow special needs Mum the isolation is rea. The last time I tried to go out with friends I didn't make it and I felt they held it against me even tho if they lived my life they would understand. Hold your chin up high. Are there any parent groups for parents of children with ASD near you? They will understand and they've become some of my closest friends.