Am I being an idiot?

[TurtleyFine]

Been with bf for about 6 months, everything has been going really well until a couple of weeks ago.

We were arranging to meet up last week, I text him at around 6pm to make plans for the next day. He didn’t text me back until the next morning saying he fell asleep. He works nights so would have been tired and I didn’t think anything of it. We arranged to meet at 4pm. He fell asleep again and we didn’t end up meeting up.

Yesterday he text me at 10:30 am, I replied at around 1:30 pm. He hasn’t replied and I haven’t heard anything from him since then. I wouldn’t really be bothered but it was to make plans for this evening. So I’m feeling like he’s not bothered enough to take 30 seconds out of his day to reply to me, and can’t really be that bothered about seeing me.

AIBU to feel like this? I don’t know if he was sleeping again during the day yesterday and then hasn’t wanted to send a text overnight in case it woke me up and I’m just being a bit impatient wanting to make plans with him.

Just... call him?

Call him.

Yup. Pick up the phone and dial.

You waited 3 hours to reply to him didn’t you? Why do you expect him to be more prompt?

Just call him and stop acting like a 13 year old.

So you’re moaning he didn’t text you back straight away but you took 3 hours to reply to his text? Grow up a bit OP and just call him.

Yeah I agree you should call him.

I would differ to other PPs comments. You've already texted him, he hasn't texted you back for a week, he cancellled plans twice last weekend due to sleeping /being tired, and has been a bit awol. It sounds like he's avoiding you and has pulled away a bit, ime when people need space it's best to give it to them and not chase. He'll contact you when he wants and if he doesn't then it's because he doesn't want to talk or arrange to meet up.
Right now I would arrange to meet up with friends, keep myself busy, book in some nice things I hadn't had time to do and see how it all plays out,

I couldn't be doing with all that faff waiting between messages. Especially not at only 6 months in.

I agree, call him and see if he picks up. If he doesn't then I think I'd be done with the relationship. 6 months in should be honeymoon period where you two want to talk and be together all the time!

No I didn’t deliberately wait to reply to him. I was out and replied when I noticed that he’d text. Also I think 3 hours is a reasonable time to reply to a message compared to 18+ hours. Surely he’s not sleeping for all that time?

I don’t like calling him because if he just falls asleep he doesn’t always switch his phone off and I don’t want to wake him up.

He sounds like too much hard work for only 6 months in