Is it me?!

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I really do not think I’m being unreasonable, but I’m so fed up with this and am starting to wonder if it’s just me and I’m going mad.

Two things.

Partner never addresses anybody. He will never say the name of who he is talking to or get someone’s attention, just says something and then gets the ump when we don’t psychically know who he is talking to and respond or if we ask him to repeat it because we wasn’t listening because we didn’t know he was going to say anything to us

Second thing

There’s always an underlying accusatory tone.

“What you up to today?”
“Why, what’s up?”

Again, is this not normal general conversation? Perfectly reasonable question to ask your partner? Why does there have to be something up? It’s doing my head in and I need confirmation now if I’m just being annoying without meaning to!!!

Not you. He's rude. My ex never used my name unless he was telling me off for some misdemeanour. Oddly, I never, ever heard my dad use my mum's name either.

The first ones him being weird, the second one depends on the way it's said.

I say things like that but in an inquisitive way - "what are you up to today" is a completely normal question.

@GiveHerHellFromUs

It’s not said in a “why what’s up do you need anything type way” it’s said in a “ffs how dare you even talk to me” manner. It’s giving me rage.

Oh yeah that's just rude and unnecessary then!

There is so much about him that I dislike, I wish I could find the strength to walk away

Why don't you walk away? What's stopping you?

@GiveHerHellFromUs

I read it like that at first too but I think OP means it's like this:

OP asks him: What you up to today?
He answers: Why, what’s up?

I know a "what do you mean?" person. After mundane questions so I feel like I'm being put on the spot or they think there's some ulterior motive. Eg talking about family:

Me: Do you think they'll move back to the States at some point?
Them: What do you mean?

EXACTLY WHAT I SAID. LITERALLY.

But that's their response to every single question.

OP that sounds really annoying and symptomatic of someone just generally thinking the world revolves around them! When you say it's frustrating do they get all mardy?

Why don't you have the strength to walk away?
Your relationship seems to have run it's course and you're obviously not happy.

There was a thread on here ages ago about people not being able to address people by their names, it makes them uncomfortable, I don't think it's personal.
The second issue, only you know what tone it is said in. Seems a normal thing to say to me 🤷‍♀️

Oh yeah that makes sense @YasssKween