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Neighbour Problems

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UnderAndOverIt · 26/01/2020 23:22

I'm looking for some advice, please.
My neighbours child is absolutely out of control. He is 14 years old, he disappears at all times of the night by jumping out of his bedroom window (1st floor) to hang around with older "kids" (19/20 year olds) that are getting him to sell drugs for them, smokes cigarettes and weed, he's aggressive, he swears at people and threatens them, he's been arrested for all sorts of things and has just gone completely off the rails.
I am quite close with his mum, we've known eachother for years. She's a lovely woman but doesn't listen to advice. It's almost like she just CBA dealing with her kids behaviour, it's easier to ignore the issues than to deal with them head on.
She has younger children that emulate the 14 year olds behaviour. They've had social services in and out of their lives for the last year or so for one thing or another.
The children's father is an absolute waste of space. He is no help at all.

I don't know what to do to help.
Has anyone else been through this with a friend or neighbour?

Any help would be massively appreciated.

Thank you

OP posts:
Travis1 · 26/01/2020 23:26

Not your circus. They are showing you they don’t want your help. Social services are involved leave it to them.

UnderAndOverIt · 26/01/2020 23:32

Social services keep on signing them off. The thing is, I have children too. And the 14 year old neighbour harasses them too. My kids know how to deal with certain individuals, but I'm nervous about it now. This boy was removed from school for brandishing a knife about (one of the arrests). I am absolutely not trying to stick my nose in anyone's business (I'm a big avoider of drama) but when it's on my doorstep and affecting my clan I have to do something other than just telling the mum that ignorantly brushes off the problem.

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KellyHall · 26/01/2020 23:37

Contact Social Services directly if the family isn't interested in addressing the issues. Tell Social Services what you know and hope they do more. They can only go by what they see and hear.

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