Fed up with sibling and parents support

[Orangeblossom78]

Trying to help parents claim attendance allowance - they are elderly and have health conditions.

My sibling is putting spanner in the works, because they apparently had a tax credit overpayment at one point and had to pay it back..

Feel like I am banging my head against a wall. I have tried telling them it isn;t income based and is about their health.

Should I just go ahead help them with it anyway, it is their choice after all surely whether to claim it or not.

My sibling has got Power of attorney though with his wife. They do have capacity though

Sorry i mean my sibling had an overpayment of child tax credit once. I'm not sure why they think this is a problem with the AA, maybe they think parents would have to pay it back or something. It's so frustrating.

Do you think there is a possibility that they are already claiming attendance allowance on your parents behalf which is why they don't want you involved? Their tax credit situation would have no bearing on your parents or whether they had an overpayment

I used to work at DWP, and can confirm that your sibling's benefit claims and debts have no benefit whatsoever on your parents' claims. It does sound like your sibling may have claimed it and is pocketing the money...

*bearing not benefit

No they wouldn't have done that, I'm pretty sure, they are very honest (very sensible) Just seem a bit anxious same could happen to parents

Attendance allowance is paid to your parents as the claimants and has nothing to do with your sibling or their tax credits. Are they getting it mixed up with carers allowance?

I'm not sure. They don't seem to be in agreement about them claiming it
Though that is up to them really. I will just have to ask dad and see what he wants.

Poa shouldn't come into play unless your parents lack capacity,, agree with pp it sounds like they have already claimed and not said

OP please ignore your sibling. Try phoning Age Concern. I did this for my DM after she was turned down when I knew she shouldn't have been. They had a lovely lady who comes round and fills in all the forms properly for you and sends them directly to DWP. Obviously know what they're doing as my DM got the full amount which I knew she was entitled to within a month.

I tried Age UK< they said couldn't help with forms but if dad range them would ask DWP to go out to him but would need to be housebound. (he's not). I live far away and sibling much closer so could have helped with gathering e.g. docs letter.

They seem to have a benefits person in his housing place so maybe they can help, or I could try doing the forms online and sending in

Honestly claim it , as your parents get more dependent it will help pay for extras , my dad paid for a cleaner , extra disability aids for the home taxis, all the things that made life easier for them .

I feel your pain OP
I was told from a very young age almost daily that I would only get out of life what I put in. Hence worked hard. Siblings never got that "mantra" instead parents have bought both siblings their fucking houses. For twenty years I've had bills to pay...whilst siblings travelled the world on fabulous holidays...its easy when you have zero debt and your entire income is basically your disposable income. Siblings work for parents, siblings never paid tax in their lives....not ever! Siblings claimed all the benefits they could too.

Yes OP, believe me....I feel your pain.