To think I should be over being dumped by now?

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I know I should be moved on by now and IABU to still be upset. I was dumped on Monday evening by a man who has went back to his ex. I really liked him, we were clearly heading towards a relationship (which would have been my first one for over ten years). But his ex mistress contacted him ‘out of the blue’ and he’s gone back to her.

I’m so upset and hurt, but I only met him before Christmas! I thought I’d have been okay by now. I’ve got over much longer flings much quicker.

I’ve had a few nights out with friends and enjoyed a bit of a pity party, but now I have to get a grip.

AIBU to ask how I can speed up moving on? I feel absolutely ridiculous still thinking about him.

Time solves everything. You might have to be patient. It's been less than a week.

His ex mistress? You've really had a lucky escape!

Give yourself more time. You obviously thought he was special so you're mourning the loss of a potential relationship. If you liked him a lot it will take longer to get over him than a fling.

Its been less than a week, try and keep busy and hopefully you'll feel better soon.

His ex what?

His ex what?

Mistress. He left his wife to be with her early last year, but she didn’t leave her husband. And then on Friday, apparently out of the blue, she gets in touch and says she is going to leave him now.

Should’ve walked away when he told me he’d cheated on his wife, but stupidly I thought he’d made a mistake and been honest about it.

It's only been a week! Regardless of the type of man he is, if you thought you were heading for a relationship but it's now not going to happen, you're understandably upset.

Give it a few more weeks without contact, you will move on.

He sounds really bad news from his history

Lucky escape I think!

Judging by his history he will probably be back at some point. You know what they say about creating a vacancy?

Getting over hurt pride takes time. Just make sure you don’t let him do it again.

I don’t think he’ll be back in touch. I was very cutting with him after he told me.

I wouldn’t mind but we went on a date on Monday, had a lovely time, and he waited till after 10pm to tell me. Said he still wanted to have a drink. I can’t understand it.

He's shown you the kind of man he is, OP. Selfish and uncaring. I'm really sorry you've been treated like this.

You were a rebound at best. At least you know now

I'm sorry OP, they can be real shits at times. I know you won't be able to see this right now but in time, hopefully soon, you'll realise that you've had such a lucky escape. Imagine if OW had showed up six months later, after you'd both got into a relationship. I'm certain he'd cheat on you with her, just like he did with his wife.

I'm sorry OP, they can be real shits at times. I know you won't be able to see this right now but in time, hopefully soon, you'll realise that you've had such a lucky escape. Imagine if OW had showed up six months later, after you'd both got into a relationship. I'm certain he'd cheat on you with her, just like he did with his wife.

I'm 100% certain that this would have been the case. I just wish he'd left me alone in the first place. Bastard.