AIbu to tell the school

[Hadleybeans]

My 12 year old son told me a few weeks ago that another boy in his class asked his ‘girlfriend’ - a 12 year old girl in the same class - to send him a topless picture of herself. She did and he showed the picture to his friends. The girl found out and was distraught. The boy apologised (he said he was promised ten pounds by another boy in his class if he did it, as if that was an excuse!).

The other kids in the class seem to think it was her fault for sending the photo and the offending boys are still sought after.

I know that the school doesn’t know and nor does the girl’s mum. I am grateful my son tells me things and don’t want to threaten that but...

I should tell the school, shouldn't I?

Yes

Yes

Yes. You can speak to the Safeguarding Officer in confidence. I’m one and I’ve had this happen a couple of times.

Yes

Yes.

Yes, this is a serious safeguarding issue. Contact the school first thing on Monday and ask to speak with their safeguarding lead .

Yes you need to, call and report to the Designated Safeguarding Lead.

Yes. Safeguarding lead.
Good on your son for telling you... lovely you have such an open relationship.

Yes. Tell the school. You can remain anonymous.

Yes do not hesitate to tell them. It's a massive safeguarding issue

Yes, it needs to be reported. Kids this age don't realise that this is actually a criminal offence. The school need to deal with this and make everyone aware just how wrong it is. In addition the girl will need support with this. She will not be named but all pupils will be told that making/coercing someone into doing this is wrong. Right now everyone is telling her it's her own fault.

It does show that you have a great relationship with your son. Well done to him

Yes.

Is that first year of secondary?

Good on your son for telling you.

Yes

Yes - tell the school.

Of course you need to report it

Yes. Don’t even think about it. U need to tell the school x

Yes. Tell the school.

These children clearly need some more training and education about online safety.
Please report it.

Another DSL here. Definitely tell the school.

Yes , my gd was still in primary when a boy asked her the same thing , she told her mum who then told the school
They took it very seriously

Do you really need to ask🧐

Of course... tell the school

Yes, definitely. Technically it is illegal for the girl to have sent the picture as it is distributing child pornography (although she will obviously not be prosecuted) and it is illegal for the boy to have or share the picture. It needs dealing with swiftly before it escalates.

Well done to your son for telling you.

Absolutely tell the school. It's a criminal offence to distribute that type of photograph of a child. Even the girl taking the picture of herself and sending it is a criminal offence. All these children need a serious talking to about the dangers of this.

Oh gawd yes tell the school. It needs flagging up to the year to remind them this is not acceptable