When you stop caring what people think you become more attractive?

[WhoFramedRoger]

In my teens and twenties I always tried and felt pressured to be in fashion, have perfect makeup, stay very very slim etc.

As I’ve got older (33, two children who are 9 & 5) I’ve found I give less of a shit about what others think of me and I really enjoy any nights out.
I’m not bad looking but I’m definitely not super model looks.

I’m lucky to have a good social life and tonight I’ve been out.. went to a gig and stayed out afterwards. Dressed in Dr.Martens, jeans and t-shirt and I’ve never had so much positive attention from both sexes in my life.

I left the house not bothered about anything other having fun and I have come home feeling great.

I’ve danced and smiled all night and I’ve been chatted up non stop.

Having come out of a really abusive relationship I’ve regained my confidence. I’ve not felt pretty for years (and still don’t)

But because I was confident tonight I was sexy.

Has anyone experienced this? It’s boosted my confidence and self esteem.

I was just having fun. But now I feel lovely again

I think you gain confidence which always makes a person more attractive.

I believe you are right. I am not that good looking and have a mum bod, but i am very confident and smiley which helps me punch way above my weight.

Regardless of what the sexist media tells us, we do tend to be most attractive in our 30's.

Confidence is a part of it, having nothing to prove and knowing who you are, are others.

I think it's the smiling and the obvious having a good time.
I think a smile makes anyone so much for attractive.

It sounds like a brilliant night out- I'm really glad you enjoyed yourself, especially after that rotten relationship. I think you're right about confidence and being fun to be around; it's far more attractive than try-hard but insecure people.

I think so too. Although obviously "not caring what people think" means having confidence, your own sense of style etc rather than not caring to the extent you no longer brush your teeth

@bananahood 😂😂
Yes I definitely was clean and looked nice, as in my hair and make up looked good.
But I genuinely think it’s because I was happy