To think local facebook groups are full of petty complainers?

[Farontothemaddingcrowd]

I've recently moved to a village and joined the facebook group for the new build estate I'm on. It was meant to be a place for the community to share ideas, organise events etc. Instead it's full of passive aggressive sniping about bins and parking. Even if I know it's not about me, I get really anxious and paranoid. I suffer from anxiety and one poster said that someone on our street had put rubbish in her bin and she was going to march round and knock on their door! It was not me, but I felt really on edge.
Yesterday we hired a carpet cleaner and while the carpet dried, we let the dog into the garden and nipped out to the shop. We were just over half an hour and the dog must've started barking. My dd, 13, was at home but didn't think to let him in

I then get a notification on Facebook and someone on the group has posted about a dog barking every day on our street - the poor thing is outside all the time.... it was our dog as there aren't any other dogs on our end of the street.

Dp works from home, the dog is never alone and is usually in the house! Today he went out to play and barked a little, but the door was open for him to come back in and he wasn't distressed! We are conscious not to disturb neighbours and he does not spend much time in the garden - maybe twice a day. He doesn't usually bark out there either. So this was clearly made up! I was upset as three people posted sad faces - as if our lovely dog was somehow neglected.

Dp posted that this wasn't a frequent occurrence at all and explained about the carpet cleaner and when I phoned dd, she let him in. I appreciate a barking dog can be annoying, but it seems that rather than speaking to neighbours, people are posting passive aggressive complaints on this group and exaggerating matters to boot.

I left the group as I decided it was having a negative effect on my anxiety. AIBU to find these groups very petty?

They’re hilarious, mine are full of badly spelled rants about some driver who cut them up with, “If I’d of had my kids in the car I’d of ...” 😂

Someone the other day asked if there was going to be a local display to celebrate Brexit!

@Dyrne "I’m always amazed when people behave as petty and vicious as MN when on fb it’s actually got their name tied to it!"

Well I find it best not to assume that everyone uses their own name on Facebook... There are always people who are not "allowed" to be on social media, or would prefer not to have their name on there for whatever reason, so create accounts under an assumed name... That would perhaps account for some of the more outrageous comments, although I accept that there will always be those who don't care and want people to know about their views, and are weirdly "proud" to be racist etc...

I realise this is old but on my estate it is for bored neighbours who arrange street parties to fill their time. Their dc are grown up or have left home. They masquerade as 'community' but then couldn't be more ignorant and disrespectful of others. Examples are: going on holiday and parking in a bay leaving their driveway empty and inability to park on own driveway or outside own house as too hard to shuffle cars, making noise at night, not taking each others bin in, driving over peoples grass and breaking things, but they're supposedly a community. It's hilarious to watch. I definately wouldn't want to be part of it if you paid me!

I started reading this thread thinking “sounds a lot like MN!” just to see that I posted that exact comment 2 years ago. Maybe time for me to name change or get a life

Ours has the occasional moan - dog poo, dogs off leads, dogs upsetting horses, people driving too fast down the lanes - but most of it’s lovely and the complaints are usually reasonable.

In first lockdown it was a life line for people needing help and giving away things they didn’t need/asking for things they did and that’s carried on since.

This week people are offering free books, free seedlings, selling plants, promoting the jubilee events, advertising free or cheap local classes or advice events, offering allotments to asylum seekers in a hotel nearby.

I really like it.

🤣 definitely like mumsnet

Everyone knows this about local Facebook groups. You have to either ignore it completely or treat it as a source of entertainment.

I think they are useful for finding tradespeople etc but sometimes it does get really petty.

I think it depends on your neighbours really, ours is super positive but that's beeb triggered by covid and us joining together as a community. So there are lots of posts about does anyone have x y z we could borrow and has anyone tried this. Etc. If a few of you drown the group with positivity it will change.

Ours is pretty tame. I ended up as admin as only one to go to meeting when bloke who set it up moved away. Someone was outraged I let anyone join even if don’t live on actual estate - there’s businesses, people who work in school, nearby estates etc if they want to join in it can be useful. Odd prickly one who stirs things but pretty quiet overall.

The worst I saw was people objecting to a Special Needs school being relocated.

Apparently the children at the nearby primary school would end up being terrified because of all the awful SN kids.

As a mum whose DD has SN that one particularly pissed me off.

Some gripes really are pathetic.

Saying that though, I was tempted to post about a barking dog.

It had been barking for over 2 straight hours and it was driving me mad.

I have dogs. They start barking they come in. This one just did not stop

OP these people are generally wankers with nothing to fill their time. Their only pleasure in life is to chastise someone for having a blade of grass not in its rightful place.

However, you must develop a tougher exterior. If someone knocked on your door to accuse you of something, you say confidently "I am sorry to hear that, I did not do it and I hope you find out who did." And then if they are talking mindless bollocks, tell them your child/dog/food needs your attention.

I felt like you did when I moved to my estate. In hindsight I was just fresh blood for the people who have nothing at all to do other than micro-police the pretend crimes of others. When I was having some works done outside, one of these morons came around to say that he hoped I was not having something done that would look cheap.

You did the right thing leaving this fucking demented facebook group. I often wonder how much better our country could be if these bored twats actually did something useful and productive instead of spending their time being keyboard warriors. I mean bin person could clean their bin and then put up CCTV if they really were so hell bent on solving the crime. Or maybe get a gravity bin lock. No need to terrorise everyone else by putting nasty stuff online.

That’s awful

Im sorry x

In my old estate it was hilarious. Once, someone wrote about someone who was walking around the roads and stopping and "looking around intently". They thought they should let people know because it looked suspcious.

That actual person was on the group, and had to tell everyone that they were partially sighted, and the reason they kept stopping and looking around was so they could figure out where the fuck they were!

But… But…

You’ve come on Mumsnet, a site built on complaining, to complain about other people complaining?

🤣

Our village has several rival groups because someone has fallen out with someone else and set up a new one.
They are full of pettiness, weirdness, rants and great kindness. To be fair I lived here before the FB groups started and all that pettiness, weirdness and kindness was all here it just didn't get delivered to your phone, but it usually got round eventually, that's village life.
I don't treat them with any seriousness and generally laugh at the weirdness, call out the racism/sexism and find them useful sometimes. My friend can't cope with them so stopped following them, I tell her if anything useful crops up.

Oh they'd love my garden. Grass is nearly a foot tall, doing no mow may. Also because I'm lazy and don't want to do it.

If someone asked me to take care of it, I'd likely bring my horse down and see what complaint I got next.

We have three in my area and the admins all fell out and set up one each! Stupid stupid rules. The admin of one is like a dictator and very obvious which way she swings politically but my goodness if anyone has an opinion!!
Someone just complained about the long grass in the park! It is an area designated for wild flowers and grass! They think it looks untidy!

Ours is full of endless posts of lost and found cats, why is road x is closed yet again, people asking about plumbers, and women selling overpriced cup cakes. Oh, and moaning about the doctors surgery telephone lines being permanently engaged.

Oh god yes I think it's the same in most towns. I yearn for the days before smartphones and social media when one could go about one's business without fear of ending up with your photo on FaceyB for some minor transgression that years before nobody would have cared about .
Parking, dropping litter, dog crap, somebody walking along looking at people's houses (I do this cos I find it interesting 😅)
I must confess , and I am fully prepared to get flamed for this, but when someone posted a picture of a stonking great dog turd laid right outside their gate, I do have a small smile to myself

. Yes OK, I know, I know 🤣🤣

I just lurk and enjoy the drama 👀 especially on a Saturday night when wine has clearly been taken. The amount of anger that must bubble close to the surface in so many people.

However the people who let their dog shit in the street and don’t pick it up deserve all they get.

What do they say about people who resurrect ZOMBIE THREADS?

YANBU it's moan central!