I'm not the OP so please accept my starting a new thread as the original closed
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*All this talk of ageing rapidly post 45 is going to do nothing to deter people who really want a baby. Especially if they don’t already have children. The yearning is strong. So strong that women in all sorts of difficult and inappropriate/unsuitable circumstances will go ahead and get PG or see unplanned PGs through in spite of a dozen good reasons not to.
I don’t see why we should assume women of 45 who are massively broody will necessarily think any differently to girls of 15.
They want what they want and they’ll do whatever they can to get it. They don’t think about whether it’s the best thing for the child any more than the 15 yo does, or if they do then they quickly push all arguments against to the sidelines and plough on anyway*
No, no and no! I'm 47 with one DS who i had at 41. I was desperate for another and wracked with guilt for not providing another DC for DH and a sibling for DS. I felt deep down everything was against us, not just my age but many other factors. So it didn't happen. But it doesn't stop the yearning. So there is actually a Yes in that the yearning is super strong. But i have managed to control it at every step. I will most prob regret it but it can be done when things are such that it would upset what we have. Why risk it.