Is it weird to invite someone I hardly know to Burns Night party at my house

[CassandrasCastle]

Well, party is stretching it... I'm 27 weeks pg, but hoping to lay on the whisky for everyone else. It's basically going to be a few good pals from my current and previous jobs; not 'just' colleagues, but people I've formed friendships with and see outside work.

DP and I were hoping to have plentiful alcohol available, plus nice non-alcoholic gin and Shloer etc. (LOVE SHOLER) And a wee haggis, along with buffet food. I really want to address the haggis too..and maybe play a couple of games.

Anyway - would it be weird to invite someone who lives round the corner from me, whom I met at prenatal yoga and have exchanged numbers with? We have only ever seen each other at yoga sessions, maybe 6 times now, but get on well.

I just don't want to seem like a needy weirdo by suddenly asking her to my house though - with her DH too. Should I? Just thought I'd put it to AIBU

Definitely invite her! Burns Night is probably the one event of the year where we casually invite everyone we bump into after New Year (which often means it's rather...crowded)! Have fun!

Very needy. Just say, Hi, having a few friends round for a Burns night party tomorrow if you fancy joining us? 🤷🏽‍♀️

And thanks. You've reminded me to get my sausage meat out of the freezer

Your plan sounds great and you should definitely invite her. I’d be delighted if I was your new friend!

We had haggis pizza this week for an early Burns Night as have other plans for tomorrow. Didn’t address it though 😂

Why not? I would. For a relationship to deepen at least one party has to take the risk of opening up. DH and I like to entertain and have built many friendships by inviting over people we've met and liked locally. If they aren't comfortable they'll say no, no big deal. There's nothing strange or needy about being social, hospitable, and interested in making new friends.

@CassandrasCastle it's not inviting her which is weird - that would be perfectly nice and normal.

It's the fact that you've started an entire thread about it online, and not only that, but you are drafting and re-drafting texts and agonising about how to word them.

I'm sorry but that is really odd and yes, if it were me I would be really freaked out to know that this much thought had gone into it.

Invite her along if you think it would be nice, but this level of anxiety and overthinking is inappropriate to the situation.

It's quite clear the OP is a bit anxious and prone to overthinking things socially rather than abnormally fixated on this specific woman, Scarlett. An issue which is addressed simply by pushing your boundaries a bit and gaining more confidence. Which this thread is part of.

If you won't associate with people who can overthink social situations you're going to have a pretty narrow visiting list yourself.

Did Scarlett say they won't associate with people who overthink social situations?

That's not what is happening here. The OP has managed to invite everyone else, is hosting a party, addressing a haggis.......and obsessing about a text to a woman from yoga, right down to how she words it.

It's not strange to be creeped out by finding out someone has a crush on you to the point they are asking strangers on the internet to help draft their texts to you.

nice non-alcoholic gin and Shloer etc. (LOVE SHOLER)

Whit?! Nae Irn Bru?

Fuck, now everyone is creeped out by me

I realise putting text wording on a thread looks pretty over invested, but I think I genuinely just wanted to know what people think of inviting someone you don't know very well over to your house, and it's nice to hear other people's experiences.

I amn't really agonising, haha. I'm at work, I'm meeting a friend tonight, my hips are aching like mad and the baby was very still yesterday so I ended up having to hospital to get monitored. So, you know, there are other things on my mind. It's quite fun to post a thread on MN and see people's responses, that's all.

That was mainly to @crustycrab *ScarlettBlaize Who I'm sure will continue to think I'm a creepy oddball, but oh well

TheSandman Don't panic! I am definitely going to source Irn Bru from somewhere in this flipping ENGLISH CITY :p

Shit, think I'm just going to go for it

@ScarlettBlaize Sure you'll be glad to know that I am now worried about her answering 🙄

My two boys had haggis pizza tonight as a warm up to the real thing tomorrow. I wonder if your guests would like that?

So, did you invite her?

Do it. Years and years ago - more than 20 years - a woman I vaguely knew and liked from baby groups invited DH and I round for a meal with her and her DH. At the time I was surprised - it just seemed a bit odd, or a bit much, or something. Anyway - she'd clearly seen something in me that told her we could be good friends, and had the guts to just go for it - and 20+ years later we're best friends. So yes - take that leap of faith - it sounds like you know you could be good friends.

TheSandman Don't panic! I am definitely going to source Irn Bru from somewhere in this flipping ENGLISH CITY :p

Don't get Sugar Free - it's bowfing.

Btw, to update - I invited her and she could not make it To be fair, this was because I hardly gave any notice, and she already had plans. I think we'll probably go to the cinema or something together soon, it sounds like we have similar tastes - we do live just round the corner from each other in a great neighborhood part of our city, so lots to do, and I'm really glad I've met her as so far no other mum-to-be friends I've clicked with.