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To not own scales?

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surlycurly · 23/01/2020 19:51

So about 8 years ago I threw out my bathroom scales. I have a daughter and I didn't want her to have an issue with her weight as she grew up. In an attempt to avoid that I decided to get ride of the scales and didn't talk about dieting or food other than in a positive way.

Fast forward 8 yrs and she is mainly quite comfortable in her own skin but has recently put quite a bit of weight on. She's nearly 16 and is 5ft 8". The past few months has seen her weight creep up and up. She was weighed at the doctors six months ago and she was just over 12st. I suspect I she has put on half a stone since then. Her diet is terrible. She doesn't seem to be aware of the change and her clothes still fit although they're getting tighter. AIBU not to have scales because I don't want her obsessing and being miserable? Or should I get some and help her manage her increasing weight by monitoring it? I'm generally a very body positive person and want her to be the same (I'm also tall and a similar weight).

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PooWillyBumBum · 23/01/2020 20:00

I’m not sure the scales are the issue at all - I’m sure she knows she’s big and if her diet is terrible then I’m not sure what value weighing will bring.

For what it’s worth we’re a slim family and don’t have scales. If my jeans start getting tight I might cut back on wine and snacks. I agree I don’t think weighing constantly is healthy.

Psychologically I like the idea of focussing on healthy food (I.e. eating loads of fruit and veg rather than restricting things) and finding fun activities which get her moving.

surlycurly · 23/01/2020 20:12

I'm hoping to get her out walking when the nights get lighter as she won't do any other form of exercise. The food side is difficult- she's autistic and is incredibly fussy . I don't want her to be fixated on her weight but she needs to watch, it's definitely creeping up!

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KittenVsBox · 23/01/2020 20:13

Trouble is I can wear the same jeans from about 11.5st to 13 stone. That's a massive variation in weight without needing new clothes (I'm a tiny bit shorter than your daughter). Scales work for me. No scales obviously work for you. You need to find what works for your daughter.

surlycurly · 23/01/2020 20:18

I'm the same in terms of things fitting me at different weights as I'm so tall. I don't want to be unkind to her but do need to do something!

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