To let a 16 year old go to a concert alone?

[Neverhavetoomuchglitter]

Dd is mad about the k pop group BTS. She wants to get a ticket for when they are in Twickenham in July. Because I can't stand them and her friends say they can't afford a London trip (dd is using Christmas and birthday money) she wants me to take her to the concert and wait for her outside (or in the nearest pub). I've said no. Aibu?

Well it depends on how mature your DD is,....but I went to gigs on my own at 15 and travelled there and back on my own....but this was back in the day when parents didn't think their children were lacking common sense and survival skills.

Could you go with her? When I was 14/15 my mum took me & friend to concert of an artist I absolutely loved and she hated at Wembley stadium. It was one of the best experiences of my life although I think she hated it!

She is 16- not 6!!
Of course she can go on her own.

More surprise you won’t go with her though

She's 16 for heaven's sake! I wouldn't be hanging around in the pub for her - she can discover public transport.
When are you planning to loosen the apron strings? 18? 25? 30?

If dd gets a ticket (big if, they sold out instantly last year) she could keep an eye, she's 21.

Does she want a 14 to go with? I can also wait in the pub nearby!! Wembley last year was lovely for my daughter but torture for me, they were good but the screaming was horrendous and u can't tell a word of what they're saying, but I can't not let her go, she's saved up since incase they toured again. She adores them! Happy to buddy up

Having said that my 16 year old is seeing Harry styles with just a friend in April at the 02. More than old enough tbh

What is it you're saying no to, I can't work it out from your post. Do you have an issue with her going, or with waiting for her nearby? Actually I'm not sure why I'm asking because I think you're being unreasonable either way!

You can't be serious. She's 16. You would baby a 16 year old to this extent?

Wow I must be over protective!! She always tells me I am lol. I don't know why I'm like I am lol. I guess I just worry?! I honestly thought others would say I was being a terrible mother for even thinking about it!!!
Of course I've told her she's highly unlikely to get tickets in the first place....but if only buying 1 it might be easier!!!

My daughter went to a K-pp concert at Wembley last year. She was 17 and went with a couple of friends. She said most people were of a similar demographic and everyone was friendly and there were no issues. I’d let her go.

my 17 yr old goes to gigs all the time - meets all sorts of people! But does go w a friend or two - not everyone does though.

Twickenham isn't the easiest place for public transport late at night. I'd have less of a problem if she was going with a friend tbh, unless she knows the area well.

If there’s a standing section that she gets a ticket for make sure that she’s old enough to be unaccompanied - this is different ages depending on the venue (DDs going to a gig in Feb and its 18 for unaccompanied standing) - seated tickets are usually fine though. If so, she’ll be fine. Tbh I was so relieved when mine got to 15 and 16 so I no longer had to go in and listen .

Cripes i’d moved out of my parents house at 16 and was going to days long music festivals.

I was in the exact same position last year with my DD. She is also mad about BTS and she begged and cried for me to let her go. I went with her and I really enjoyed it. I wouldn't have given them a second thought but after the concert I realised they are really talented and make good music and I listen to them on the occasion now. My and my DD had a brilliant time together and it made me happy knowing how happy she was there. Don't judge her likings before you understand them for yourself, you should give them a listen. May I ask why you can't stand them?

Standing in stadium concerts does usually require an over-18, but in every other way it would be fine for your DD to go. My DD2 and two of her friends went to see All Time Low in concert when they were 14. I was in a pub nearby. That was a smallish venue though, but they were a good bit younger than your DD. It was fine and they had a great time.

I wouldn't have thought twice about it when mine were 16 x

She'll be fine. I moved out at 16 and was wholly independent so in my eyes a concert is no biggie.

If dd gets a ticket (big if, they sold out instantly last year) she could keep an eye, she's 21.

Are you really volunteering your daughter to look after a stranger?

Omg, let her go.
I'd go with her but then I love a boy band!

If you’re not comfortable, you’re not comfortable.

They’re all different at that age. We said no to DD16 going to a concert last week unless DH went with her.

It was slipknot, in a different city that she doesn’t know well and she is NOT streetwise.

It’s not a case of keeping the apron strings tied or any other such guff, it’s about risk assessing the situation and making an appropriate decision for your daughter, not anyone else’s.

Most people on here might not be realising that when you say 'on her own' you mean without a friend. Like, completely by herself.

I think I would be uncomfortable with that too. I'm also surprised she wants to

I wouldn't be comfortable with it,
If there were two of them I would be happy to give them a lift otherwise I'd go with her regardless of if I liked the music (depending on where you live)

YABU..... This is BTS

Take her to the concert