Dh and I are early 30s. Dd 22mo, ds 7mo. I have pnd, dh works full time in stressful public sector job. Been together 12 years, we suspect dd has autism so that's worry and stressful. We also have lots of debt.
Our marriage is suffering. We both want it to work but I can't believe he's telling the truth. We had a huge argument in September and he said he'd considered leaving when I was 3mo pregnant with ds2 but decided he wanted to stay and keep us together.
I'm still hurting over that but trying to move on. However the other night during sex dh was even less into foreplay than usual, I directly tried to move his hand to do what I wanted and he resisted. We carried on but afterwards I asked him what happened. I pushed him quite hard and then he admitted he didnt find me attractive.
I have gained 7 stone in the course of our relationship and now weigh 19st. I'm not blind so I do get why he wouldn't be attracted and I'm working on this.
Has anyone been through anything similar that worked out ok? I do love him but I'm so hurt I just find it hard to believe he feels the same and half expect him to say he's met someone who's everything I'm not.