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Should she have given the money to her daughter?

8 replies

PickleBottomNo3sMum · 23/01/2020 14:59

I bought some high-school uniform for DD from a local selling site. It was an ex-student selling off her uniform, she sold me a decent sized bundle of uniform for £20. When I collected it was her mum who gave me the uniform. I then received a message from the daughter to say she’d forgotten to give me some shirts. So I went back to collect the shirts but felt it was such a good deal and admirable that the girl was trying to make some extra cash by selling her old uniform I gave the mum an extra £10 to give to her daughter.

Her mum asked if I’d told the daughter about the extra money and I told her I hadn’t. She asked me not to tell her daughter as the daughter had already got the £20 and thought she should keep the £10 as she’d originally bought the uniform (second hand). However it was the daughter who went to the trouble of listing it.

I think she should have given her daughter the money -AIBU? If she’d wanted the money then surely she should have sold the uniform herself.

Also what do I do now? Do I tell the daughter and risk causing an argument between them or say nothing and keep out of it.

Wish I’d never offered the extra money now 🙄

OP posts:
CakeandCustard28 · 23/01/2020 15:03

Keep out of it. Not your circus, not your monkeys.

nikkylou · 23/01/2020 15:21

Her mum messed up by bothering to tell you she was keeping it.

It sounds though you have no other reason to mention it the extra tenner, other than to stir the pot and cause a bit of drama. Drama you're hardly even going witness. What does it matter to you?

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 23/01/2020 15:23

I agree it's none of your business. And if the mum has funded the daughter through school, including buying her uniform, I think the DD is a bit cheeky cashing in on it anyway personally

FagAsh · 23/01/2020 15:53

Meh... They all sound resourceful enough, leave them to it.

Raspberrytruffle · 23/01/2020 15:54

If mum has bought the uniform then I dont see why her dd should keep the money.

PerceptionIsReality · 23/01/2020 16:09

YANBU. You gave her the money specifically for the daughter. Therefore it is completely your business that the money should be applied as you have directed. Utterly bizarre to suggest otherwise.

Finfintytint · 23/01/2020 16:15

Leave them to it. They may be arguing over money owed between each other. Maybe mum is very hard up to deny the daughter another ten quid.

Ragwort · 23/01/2020 16:30

Keep out of it, presumably the mother bought the uniform in the first place?

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